Often times, cheating spouses need a push to get them out of the fog they are in.
Your wife is staying right now because you are the back-up plan. If things don't work out with her and her other man, she'll come running back to the security of your home.
It's time to stop being a doormat here. You tell her that she needs to decide RIGHT NOW what she wants. None of this "I love you honey but don't touch me" sh!t. What she's doing here is she is saving herself for her OM. It happens all the time.
If she chooses you, you need to tell her she has to go no contact with this guy right away and send him a no contact letter. If she works with him, she has to find a new job. She has to get a new phone number to and delete all email and social media accounts. She must be willing to be 100% transparent to you, allowing you to look at all acounts and texts WHENEVER you want.
Ask a moderator to move this to the Coping With Infidelity section right away. You'll get lots of great advice and help there
Good luck and stop being second choice
Your wife is staying right now because you are the back-up plan. If things don't work out with her and her other man, she'll come running back to the security of your home.
It's time to stop being a doormat here. You tell her that she needs to decide RIGHT NOW what she wants. None of this "I love you honey but don't touch me" sh!t. What she's doing here is she is saving herself for her OM. It happens all the time.
If she chooses you, you need to tell her she has to go no contact with this guy right away and send him a no contact letter. If she works with him, she has to find a new job. She has to get a new phone number to and delete all email and social media accounts. She must be willing to be 100% transparent to you, allowing you to look at all acounts and texts WHENEVER you want.
Ask a moderator to move this to the Coping With Infidelity section right away. You'll get lots of great advice and help there
Good luck and stop being second choice
