My husband and I are very shy about all things sexual. We have been married for 5 years. Have one child. We are very sexually active 3-5 times a week depending on how many hours we are working throughout the week. How do I ask him about his wants? I have never given a BJ before and am wondering if this is something he wants. How do I know what to do and how do I know if that is something he is interested in? Thank you for any advice.
Ok so I got my courage up last night and did the deed...I did not complete the bj but it was a good start for us. I think he was shocked and there was no complaining I guess practice is in order...maybe tonight we will go for round two. Thank you all for the support and any more advice will be greatly appreciated.
Oh I enjoyed reading this !! I so want to encourage you
A man complain that his wife took the lead on a BJ....never !! Some have to pull teeth for this... What a blessing you are dear lady! :smthumbup: Such willingness on the part of a wife -this is the most beautiful of gifts.... You are starting out on a new journey.....with each step you take pushing your boundaries just a little... coming out of your comfort zone to please & pleasure.....your sexual confidence will take on wings... your intimacy with your husband will grow ever stronger....
3-5 times a week but verbally sexually shy....it's there, you have it in you, have no doubt...but you feel something "caged"...I've been there...our earlier years, a slow start too.
But you are so much smarter ~ Recognizing you want more & taking that leap earlier in your marriage.
We too loved sex, we just didn't talk about it ~ I can't even explain it -other than I felt it was "taboo", certain acts, I shyed away also. This issue is my/our biggest regrets... We finally opened it all up...but it took far too many years.
If I could go back in time...I really feel had I gotten my hands on some inspiring
books....it could have changed our world... helped me open up... earlier.
Books on pleasing each other, throw in a sex game... with erotic suggestions/ questions & answers to learn more of each other.... a great jump start to opening up these delicate sexual fantasies / explorations ..
How about a Game like this for Christmas...
This one has like 300 cards ...Passionate/ Intimate/ Task cards / Sexual trivia questions/ sensual acts....for instance.....even if you put the board away...cards can be kept by your bedside....... Discover Your Lover Adult Board Game
The Sexual Monopoly - this one won't last for hours, it's much too erotic , you both win >>
XXXopoly - Adult Board Games:
Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man:
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun):
Sexually Shy: The Inhibited Woman's Guide To Good Sex:
The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex: An Indispensible Guide to Pleasure & Seduction
The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk: How To Entice, Excite, And Enchant Your Lover With Words: