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My husband will be helping his parents move in about 9 months. Because they live overseas, he'll be gone for at least a month. I'm seeing this as a chance to spend some positive time apart and hopefully act as a reboot for our marriage. But how do we go about maximizing the effectiveness of the time apart? We are not in MC right now (sigh... we're living in H's country of birth right now, so finding an English-speaking therapist is up to him. He found one, went once by himself, and cancelled the next appointment when I said I wanted us to go together. He doesn't want to find another therapist because he says the one appointment was a waste of money. I think that if we go together, it'd be more effective!). Anyway, I will push again for MC (specifying that I want to go together this time) next week, after some doctors visits are out of the way (kind of long story there, but want to rule out some medical conditions before deciding the problem is entirely the marriage).
Will a therapist help us with the separation? It's still a while off, but should we ask if they have experience with separation while we're looking for a therapist? Is that something that all therapists will have experience with? Are there any resources online that you can point me to?
My hope is that some time apart will help me realize how much I do love my husband and want him in my life, and will help my husband understand how much he's risking losing by not working on the marriage or himself. Are these crazy, starry-eyed hopes? I so, so desperately want to get us back to where we used to be.
Will a therapist help us with the separation? It's still a while off, but should we ask if they have experience with separation while we're looking for a therapist? Is that something that all therapists will have experience with? Are there any resources online that you can point me to?
My hope is that some time apart will help me realize how much I do love my husband and want him in my life, and will help my husband understand how much he's risking losing by not working on the marriage or himself. Are these crazy, starry-eyed hopes? I so, so desperately want to get us back to where we used to be.