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That's Nina Hartley and it's by far the best tutorial I've seen.

OP, just imagine eating a juicy peach.
Ha! I can't eat peaches because of the fuzz. Makes my skin crawl. In this modern day and age, I think nectarine might be more appropriate anyway (wink wink, nudge nudge).

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keep in mind that while cunnilingus technically is only done with the tongue, often you also use your fingers, and sometimes toys.

for example, you start off licking her on the inside, then slide in one or two fingers when she is wet, but continue to lick the outside at the same time.

if you have a free hand, maybe roughly pinch her nipples as you do this.

play it all by ear, if she starts heaving and moaning....that is what she likes!

I suppose you could watch some lesbian porn, and watch the details of what they do....
 

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I'm not going to get into the nuts and bolts of giving and receiving head, but I'm interested in all the books people are recommending on this thread. I'll throw in my own favorite all purpose sex manual: The Guide to Getting it On by Paul Joannides. Fantastic advice on all sorts of things (cunnilingus included) and written with a sense of fun. Worth a read.
 

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I say definitely focus on the clitoris, firm side to side and some vertical movements, not too slobbery because that ruins traction and gets unpleasant sometimes. That shouldn't be too unpleasant for you if you avoid the vagina with your mouth, not messy. Don't just hit it and quit it, like so many men do, as if they're running bases. If she's enjoying it and getting excited, keep doing it until she indicates that's enough.

A lot of guys think they're doing it right drowning themselves down there, but I just never thought that was the best way. If you get used to that basic maneuver, which is the best shot at getting her to orgasm, then you can explore more, but always remember the clitoris is the main nerve center on a woman for sexual pleasure. Don't be discouraged if she still doesn't orgasm because that just doesn't happen every time for women, and especially women who have not explored their own bodies to find out firsthand what works for them and what doesn't.

Try it a few times but if you hate doing it, don't. Most women understand. And if she hates BJs, she won't be doing those often either. It can be for special.
 

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Figure out where her clitoris is. Then go with your tongue, go fast, but don't put too much pressure on it. It should do the trick.
 

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I hope this is not TMI or explicit.

In my experience (32 years of marriage and previous relationships) which includes of 2 way oral sex variety is the key. By that I mean variety in position, tongue movement, tongue pressure, finger inclusion and time of month.

Keep your tongue moving but avoid too much repetitive movement. Don't concentrate on her clit but make sure you move up and down. The gap between * and anus is very sensitive. Change between licking and sucking and sucking & licking (on her clit and on her lips). Start light then increase the pressure then change it. All the changes should be random - keep her guessing as to what comes next.

Bring your fingers into play using them to supplement licking/sucking as well as insertion. If you can, when inserting, curl your fingers upwards and find the sensitive spot on her front wall (G spot). However avoid too much repetitive finger thrusting - keep her guessing. Test to see is she is receptive to touching her anus. It is very sensitive. No need for insertion just gentle touching/tickling especially if her juices have lubed that area.

Be patient. It may take her time to orgasm but when she does it should be cracker. Keep licking and playing right through the orgasm but be aware that afterwards she will be ultra sensitive and may push you away. At that point back off until she recovers and then, perhaps, test to see if she is receptive for more.

As for position there are several which we have found work. With her on her back you simply lie on your front between her legs and your head at her *. This is good for ease of access and fingers. I found as I got older this position put more strain on my neck.

We then experimented with me kneeling (knees hear her shoulders) and her on her back. This is almost a 69 except I am to the side. This also works well for finger play too.

With her on her knees (doggy position) she can be licked from behind. No so good for clit stimulation but good for her * and the area between * and anus. Also good for rimming if that is her thing.

Lastly you lie on your back and she sits on your face. This is best in bed with your head at the of the bed. She can then hang on to the headboard. She can rise and drop according to how much pressure she wants.

Some positions lend themselves more to her using her fingers on her clit whilst you lick elsewhere.

Finally the best piece of advice I can give is that you communicate. Ask what she likes and do that a little more (but remember the variety) and get her to direct you before and during the act.

Personally I prefer it when she has not showered immediately before as the smell and taste are a huge (and natural) turn on. Nothing worse that an overly soapy *.
Not to say your advice is wrong for you or anyone else, but those techniques don't work on my wife at all.

I know that with my wife, she wants me to get at it almost immediately. Repetitive flicks if the tongue right on her c**t, and no fingers at all. Sometimes she'll move my head slightly, but often not. Then she needs VERY SOFT touches on her n*****s.

The bottom line is this: you need to figure out what works for you and your spouse. I feel very fortunate that my wife and or both took to this in a very enthusiastic manner very early in our relationship. It's one of my favorite bedroom activities; I may even enjoy it more than her, and she loves it.
 

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Take your time. Slower is better
Yes, if I do it right, I can make it last 25 minutes. She prefers me to get her there in 15 or 20 minutes. But I enjoy it so much, I want it to last. Trouble is, I usually get too enthusiastic and can't slow down long enough to draw it out.
 

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Well all good and well and stuff but the first concerned look on your face and apprehension is enough to make her self conscious for a life time. I honestly feel bad for your wife and you need to figure out a way to apologize for that to relieve her possible anxiety you created.

If I told my wife I was never going to give her oral sex again she would likely punch me in the face. It’s a vital skill you should learn if she is wanting. Lay on your back and let her straddle your face. You will learn very quickly what she likes .... speed....pressure....etc etc. After a while of that she can lay down and steer you by the ears. When it feels like she is trying to reverse birth your face you know you got it right !
 

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Not to say your advice is wrong for you or anyone else, but those techniques don't work on my wife at all.

I know that with my wife, she wants me to get at it almost immediately. Repetitive flicks if the tongue right on her c**t, and no fingers at all. Sometimes she'll move my head slightly, but often not. Then she needs VERY SOFT touches on her n*****s.

The bottom line is this: you need to figure out what works for you and your spouse. I feel very fortunate that my wife and or both took to this in a very enthusiastic manner very early in our relationship. It's one of my favorite bedroom activities; I may even enjoy it more than her, and she loves it.
I'm working with a bigger sample set

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Well all good and well and stuff but the first concerned look on your face and apprehension is enough to make her self conscious for a life time. I honestly feel bad for your wife and you need to figure out a way to apologize for that to relieve her possible anxiety you created.

If I told my wife I was never going to give her oral sex again she would likely punch me in the face. It’s a vital skill you should learn if she is wanting. Lay on your back and let her straddle your face. You will learn very quickly what she likes .... speed....pressure....etc etc. After a while of that she can lay down and steer you by the ears. When it feels like she is trying to reverse birth your face you know you got it right !
You're wife is very fortunate. A good man pleases his wife.;)
 

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Both my wife and have only had one partner, ever. Her life long monogamy is a huge turn on to me. I love to hear her answer when I ask how many men she's been with. She's such a sweet girl, she's a man that has only been in her, and it thrills her, too.
That's great.

I have much more experience than my wife and I'm the only one she has had PIV sex with. She did mess around on other stuff but swears I am her best diver.

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As a man who was married for 30 years to a woman who would not let him do oral, let me tell you..... Do Not be afraid! when I divorced I realized that I would need to up my game. I googled Oral Sex and watched a number of videos. Found a lot of good ones, some not so good, but some I could learn from.
Now married to a woman who this is her favorite and most reliable (for orgasm) activitiy. She loves it I do too. She smells wonderful to me, tastes great. Just remember to do up and down AND side to side mix it up. Best thing you can do is practice, practice, practice.
 

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Oral sex is absolute part of our sex routine, we never had sex without oral. My wife needs it to get fully aroused for the PIV and I enjoy it too a lot.

It took us some time for both of us to learn the technique that provides her maximum pleasure. She is the only woman I have been with so I cannot speak if my wife is unique or not. I have guts feeling that every woman is different and any technique needs to be adjusted for her.

First, my wife keeps her legs tied closely to each other even when she masturbates. She literally squeezes my head very tired. Women in most porn I saw have their legs wide open. Not sure it is porn or common in real life. I would prefer her to have her legs open so I can enjoy the view but this is who she is.

Second, my wife wants maximum pressure immediately, no soft touches, playing with her lips, clit, etc. It takes me maximum 2 min to bring her almost to orgasm. However, just before the orgasm she always asks me to move to stimulating her with my hand after oral so she orgasms very wildly from my hand.
 

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Here's what you need to do. Go on your favorite porn website and type in the search bar, "how to eat p***y." There is a video of an older blonde female porn star giving a step by step tutorial on how most things you're gonna need to know. That woman knows what she is about. Start with what she says to do and then just adjust your technique based on your wife's feedback.
i would suggest watching lesbian porn. first they are both women so they know what it feels like. 2nd, cunnilingus is more of a subtle art, than a wham bam thankyou ma'am thing, and women seem to have that vibe already.

if you are doing it right, with the tip of your tongue you can feel ridges forming on the roof of her vagina, as the blood engorges the area from your stimulation. also, as she orgasms, you might taste a coppery flavor, as she comes. Both are signs of success!

and do not be afraid of including your fingers or dildos/vibrators too. start off slow, but build up to whatever it takes for her to have an explosive orgasm!
 
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