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She didn’t want to know anything else. Now she wants to know everything and beyond. More than she needs to know.
Nothing is “more than she needs to know”. That is up to her, not you. Her having “an idea” of when and what happened is no longer good enough. Give her a timeline that includes dates and who did what. When did you let your ex know you would be in town for the conference? Was it by email, text or phone? How many follow up conversations took place before the trip? Who suggested getting together? Was it her place or your hotel? Did you take her to dinner? Did she go to any Conference functions, meet any of your coworkers even at the lobby bar? Is she married or single? Do you keep in contact or just touch base for a conference booty call?

I don’t think you should dump it all on her before you travel and yet the answer to those questions would color how you can give her any support while you are away. Give her access to your email, social media and phone records. Get GPS tracking on your phone. Send her time stamped photos throughout the day and night. Send photos of receipts to prove where you say you are (hard with conferences if you don’t leave the building and much is included). If you have IOS, FaceTime often even without sound.

But all of these can be faked and circumvented so there is no real security for her. The only thing that will help is you figuring out what is wrong with you and over communicating WHY you did these things in the past and why you will NOT do them again.
 
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