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My stbxw has chosen to go food stamps instead of get a job, she has a degree and is perfectly capable but sees no point in making 20 or less an hour. She is waitressing 2x a week and has gone on State assistance. She moved in with two friends and doesn't pay rent but feeds some Animals in exchange. I am paying her share of some bills like per school for our only child, a wonderful 3 year old we share equal custody of. We don't want to go to court but I won't agree to using the child support calculator unless she puts in 28k or so since she voluntarily under employed, originally she wanted to use her waiting pay stubs which are like 75 bucks. She is very manipulative and super PA. She says if I don't giver money I'm only hurting my daughter, which isn't true. She skips shifts at work and I'm left to pay her share of bills that have to get paid.

I'm learning to say no, I don't think I want to give her any more cash until she starts paying her share. She moved out a few months ago and I'm considering asking hr to pay half the taxes too

Any advice on what's fair? Seems like I'm just money and parenting at this point and she wants to use my cash but not her own. What's reasonable?
 

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If you can document statements she makes (time, date, what was said), you can make a good case in court when it comes to determining the amount of child support you pay.

You can also call in a report of welfare fraud if you suspect she's undermining her job search or falsifying information to get welfare payments. She's required to report "household income" - not just her income - when she applies for aid. I am guessing that the incomes of her friend(s) that she lives with plus her two days as a waitress would disqualify her from collecting free taxpayer dollars.

Finally, the courts can "impugn" her income when calculating child support. They will treat her income as if she is earning full-time pay at minimum wage if you can demonstrate that she's capable of working. If she has a degree and doesn't have a severely limiting disability, you should have no problem getting that, at least.
 
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