Brother, listen... you can write about all this stuff. And you know, feel free, it may help you feel better to kind of journal it.The other thing here...she was at the house with me and the kids for a little bit between 5pm and 7pm.
So we went for a ride for takeout to get dinner.
On the ride, I had asked her more about the embarrassing remark. She said I focus too much on negativity most of the time.
She said I don't respect her interests.
For example, her parents 50th anniversary. I was late picking her and the kids up. We made it to the anniversary before most of everyone else and before her parents. She said that I'm not even remorseful and I tell her it's because I was leaving work or was tied up at work and was late.
She said on thanksgiving 2 years ago, I yelled at my daughter after dinner. Daughter was being brat, swearing about school stuff, so yes I told her to knock it off or shut up. That did stop everyone in their tracks and her parents were surprised and she thoughy i was out of line. I said, do we have to be cursing on thanksgiving about these school friends or drama? I then went to another room in the house to remove myself from the situation and not argue. She said tonight I was out of line and made a scene at her parents house. We did talk about it on the way home that night...she said we can't even go to Thanksgiving without a problem.
She says I focus on the negative because it's a good way to spin a humorous story. For example, I took us all to Grand Bahama last year. 5 days. The outbound flight sucked...up at 3am and I was wiped out for almost a day down there. So yes, I've recounted that story with, even as she says, humor spin but all I do is focus on the negative. I enjoyed the vacation and work was at lull so it was a great get away for me. Despite the 10k plus sticker tag (see there is my negativity?!)
I was actually telling a friend of mine about grand Bahama. The ocean was amazing, it looked as blue as Windex to the horizon...
She says that she feels that work is always a higher priority than her. She said she still feels that way, even though over the last 6 years I've dramatically slashed my hours at work. I used to work 55+ ... I barely work 30hrs a week now and the business is even more successful. Ive has some peak stuff going on over the last few months so I've had a few late nights (8pm) across the last 3 to 4 months.
Maybe I am a negative person?? I can't believe that... It's also sad for me that I don't get a backup from my wife when,the rare occasion, that I yell at my kids when they are stepping over the line.
But it is not going to change anything. She is not into you now, if she ever was. Or she has a boyfriend or what ever.
Nothing is going to change. She is bringing up complete and total bullshit to justify her poor treatment of you.
The bad thing about his is, she does not just have the balls to say I want a divorce and I don't love you...
You are wasting your time trying to understand this stuff when the answer is in front of your face...