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StD, you do have to set a time frame for yourself though, she is probably in a process of healing from the damage you caused, she likes what she sees but if you were the man I think you were, you made a lot of promises and broke every one, that is soul destroying, especially for a woman. She is being very cautious, and wants to see if you will relapse. She may also have a part of her that wants some vindication/revenge. Only you really know her, the being open to date gives her control and leverage which she never had before. Your willingness not to date shows her your commitment.
Yes, I made a lot of promises and broke every one of them. Only in the last 4-5 months have I been able to keep promises. She told me this weekend that she sort of likes having me do all of the chasing/pursuing since she felt like that was her in our old relationship. She likes to see me squirm a little.
I'm not sure how to even set a time-frame based on how she could be feeling or what I can endure. A time-frame for throwing in the towel? I am leaving that up to her as I refuse to to believe our relationship can't work. But I do plan on distancing myself a little more and putting more effort into being a stronger, more respectable man that isn't so defeated by our separation.
She just texted me today saying that she wants to change her major from Philosophy to Biology. She asked if I promised to help tutor her through her math (which I am good at and she is not). I agreed to help her and reminded her that it meant we would have to continue spending time together to study. She agreed.
So, that's in the near future, but still a couple months away and she's at least planning on wanting me around and in her life for the near future.