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Why should she date, you're still married. She has it good. This may not be a separation in her eyes but a preparation for D. She is not ready yet, she needs to finish school, get a job and another man first. In the meantime, she has a means of support, a male companion, sex when she needs it and a fall back man if things don't work out.
Do you have children? If not, rethink the financial support. It is a strain you don't need now. It amounts to penance and that will not get her back. She may respond to a show of self respect on your part. You are not respecting yourself in this situation.
I think you should get a legal separation and start the D. Listen to what she does and not her words, they mean nothing at this point. She really seems to be setting up an independent life. It would be better to know where you stand so you can plan and prepare mentally.
The arrangement is not fair to you. When she ask for a D, it will be more painful in this situation than one in which you are in control. Congratulations on your recovery, you will be a better man in your next relationship so don't stop your road to recovery no matter what happens to your marriage.
Do you have children? If not, rethink the financial support. It is a strain you don't need now. It amounts to penance and that will not get her back. She may respond to a show of self respect on your part. You are not respecting yourself in this situation.
I think you should get a legal separation and start the D. Listen to what she does and not her words, they mean nothing at this point. She really seems to be setting up an independent life. It would be better to know where you stand so you can plan and prepare mentally.
The arrangement is not fair to you. When she ask for a D, it will be more painful in this situation than one in which you are in control. Congratulations on your recovery, you will be a better man in your next relationship so don't stop your road to recovery no matter what happens to your marriage.
