First off I already respect a number of the members in this community because of the tremendous self-less support that is given. Most of you of you offer some very sincere, understanding but well-thought and realistic words of advice.
I will try to be concise. Last weekend, I was out celebrating a birthday party for a friend and most of the people (including my wife) had gone home because they were tired. Long story short, I ended up with just my friend (male) talking to two girls in a bar. My intentioned was to be my friend’s wingman, which I realize how inappropriate that is now. Fast forward towards the end for the night, one of the girls was wearing my jacket and I was sitting alone on a coach with my arm around her. There was definitely the opportunity and urge where I contemplated doing more wrong. I was lucky to end the night without further incident.
I’m aware I did a lot of wrong and just because I avoided a full on cheat I know my actions are not justified. Furthermore, I found myself extremely infatuated by this attractive stranger that I shared a night of conversation with. Despite a txt message that morning acknowledging it was nice to meet each other, I have since not made any form of contact. I am confident I can move on past this specific infatuation. I believe it will subside if I choose to move on.
Why I’m reaching out is because I would like to get my head straight because I want my marriage to be the best it can. We are in our mid/late 20s and my marriage is not even a year old (we dated for 6 years), and I’ve already stepped into murky water. I have never cheated on anyone before and this is this the worst thing I’ve done in a relationship (the two I’ve been in). The last thing I want to do is hurt her and I know she doesn’t deserve the pain. I don’t feel that telling her what happened would benefit our relationship, even in the long run. Is it so wrong to withhold what happened? Secondly, is it normal to feel such infatuation towards someone so new and unknown? Do I have deep-seeded issues or is this a test of being human? Any insight, advice or guidance is greatly appreciated.

Thank you.
I will try to be concise. Last weekend, I was out celebrating a birthday party for a friend and most of the people (including my wife) had gone home because they were tired. Long story short, I ended up with just my friend (male) talking to two girls in a bar. My intentioned was to be my friend’s wingman, which I realize how inappropriate that is now. Fast forward towards the end for the night, one of the girls was wearing my jacket and I was sitting alone on a coach with my arm around her. There was definitely the opportunity and urge where I contemplated doing more wrong. I was lucky to end the night without further incident.
I’m aware I did a lot of wrong and just because I avoided a full on cheat I know my actions are not justified. Furthermore, I found myself extremely infatuated by this attractive stranger that I shared a night of conversation with. Despite a txt message that morning acknowledging it was nice to meet each other, I have since not made any form of contact. I am confident I can move on past this specific infatuation. I believe it will subside if I choose to move on.
Why I’m reaching out is because I would like to get my head straight because I want my marriage to be the best it can. We are in our mid/late 20s and my marriage is not even a year old (we dated for 6 years), and I’ve already stepped into murky water. I have never cheated on anyone before and this is this the worst thing I’ve done in a relationship (the two I’ve been in). The last thing I want to do is hurt her and I know she doesn’t deserve the pain. I don’t feel that telling her what happened would benefit our relationship, even in the long run. Is it so wrong to withhold what happened? Secondly, is it normal to feel such infatuation towards someone so new and unknown? Do I have deep-seeded issues or is this a test of being human? Any insight, advice or guidance is greatly appreciated.
Thank you.