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We are taking contraception to a level we never experienced before. I have never NOT had sex in a relationship but our decision to stop after 2 years is because we do not want accidents.
I am atheist he is a Catholic. We are engaged and are talking about family and our views. Here where we are at.
If an accidental pregnancy was to happen I want an abortion. He does not.
I find it really irresponsible when he says, "I want kids but not now because I feel we are not ready financially BUT if an accident happens I will raise it anyway."
I guess he wanted me to be comforted but I wasn't. I want a kid but only if both absolutely want it and will not have mixed emotions on its future.
I find this to be a half-assed way to go about life. One has to be prepared and cautious for such life changing scenarios. You either want a kid and have it or you don't and get rid of it for the good of all involved.
I would rather not have sex than give birth to an accident. I have known many people who had a hunch growing up that they were not intended and they were always right and it is cruel. Yes they are regular members of society but I will not be responsible for someone living that existence.
Yes there are happy accidents out there but I am not someone who happily shrugs in the face of failure. I work hard and take precautions.
Anyway I told him how I felt. Sometimes he gets enticed to do something and I say,"You know where I stand" meaning if he has to have sex with me I am allowed to handle accidents as I see fit . Usually this puts an end to things.
I am proud we are taking this much precaution despite differing views.
I am atheist he is a Catholic. We are engaged and are talking about family and our views. Here where we are at.
If an accidental pregnancy was to happen I want an abortion. He does not.
I find it really irresponsible when he says, "I want kids but not now because I feel we are not ready financially BUT if an accident happens I will raise it anyway."
I guess he wanted me to be comforted but I wasn't. I want a kid but only if both absolutely want it and will not have mixed emotions on its future.
I find this to be a half-assed way to go about life. One has to be prepared and cautious for such life changing scenarios. You either want a kid and have it or you don't and get rid of it for the good of all involved.
I would rather not have sex than give birth to an accident. I have known many people who had a hunch growing up that they were not intended and they were always right and it is cruel. Yes they are regular members of society but I will not be responsible for someone living that existence.
Yes there are happy accidents out there but I am not someone who happily shrugs in the face of failure. I work hard and take precautions.
Anyway I told him how I felt. Sometimes he gets enticed to do something and I say,"You know where I stand" meaning if he has to have sex with me I am allowed to handle accidents as I see fit . Usually this puts an end to things.
I am proud we are taking this much precaution despite differing views.