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Good morning,
I am continuing to deal with long-standing issues involving my inlaws and my wife's relationship with them and me. The issues involve their lack of respet for me, and controlling behavoir towards me and my family. This has gone on pretty much since day one, and has had peaks of escalation that lead to me being physically retrained by one of them while attempting to remove myself from what was turning into a volitile situation at their home. The aforementioned incident lead to me refusing to visit with them for the better part of 6 months before I received a rather insincere email from one of them denying their involvement in the fray, and looking to simply move on.
Having said all this, plans are being made to get people together at the in-laws for thanksgiving dinner this weekend. Plans have gone back and forth with changes to expectations, times, etc almost daily. Our family's needs have semingly been last on everyone's list (as has frequently been the case), and is again leaving me feel disrespected and increasingly stressed as this evolves. As they're 2 hours from our location, visits usually encompass a couple of days and nights at their place.
After a minor blowout with my wife this morning (minor such that we both work from home, and are peacefully co-existing, and in contrast to other blowouts we've had), I have decided to remove myself from the proceedings. My wife has suggested that the headaches and stress I experience when visiting them are self perpetuated, and that I'm being melo-dramatic (a drama queen (DQ)) about it all. My thought is that removing myself from the equation is for the greater good.
Am I takin appropriate steps to preserve my own well-being and take a stand on what I need, or am I being a DQ?:scratchhead:
I am continuing to deal with long-standing issues involving my inlaws and my wife's relationship with them and me. The issues involve their lack of respet for me, and controlling behavoir towards me and my family. This has gone on pretty much since day one, and has had peaks of escalation that lead to me being physically retrained by one of them while attempting to remove myself from what was turning into a volitile situation at their home. The aforementioned incident lead to me refusing to visit with them for the better part of 6 months before I received a rather insincere email from one of them denying their involvement in the fray, and looking to simply move on.
Having said all this, plans are being made to get people together at the in-laws for thanksgiving dinner this weekend. Plans have gone back and forth with changes to expectations, times, etc almost daily. Our family's needs have semingly been last on everyone's list (as has frequently been the case), and is again leaving me feel disrespected and increasingly stressed as this evolves. As they're 2 hours from our location, visits usually encompass a couple of days and nights at their place.
After a minor blowout with my wife this morning (minor such that we both work from home, and are peacefully co-existing, and in contrast to other blowouts we've had), I have decided to remove myself from the proceedings. My wife has suggested that the headaches and stress I experience when visiting them are self perpetuated, and that I'm being melo-dramatic (a drama queen (DQ)) about it all. My thought is that removing myself from the equation is for the greater good.
Am I takin appropriate steps to preserve my own well-being and take a stand on what I need, or am I being a DQ?:scratchhead: