A woman will marry her father.

Years after I got married, I realized that my wife had all the positive traits I subconsciously admired in my mother.
I grew up with my mum and we never had a good relationship.
I would always do things my way. She was domineering and I resisted it with every muscle in my body. I always stood up to her no matter what the consequences were. I always stood my ground.
Our relationship was antagonistic, but I was successful at school,worked for my own money part time,was very self reliant so after a while she just gave up trying to control me.
The good traits of my mother were that she was a strong, opinionated woman , extremely resourceful, had sound values and believed in her self.
**She also hated injustice. She was involved in politics at the community level.

My wife basically had the same good qualities as my mom.
Very opinionated [ I respect that ],very resourceful and strong. But what really attracted me to her was that she believed in me and respected me.
After introducing her to my mon, the relationship between us [ my mother & I] began to heal.
Today, my wife and mom are inseparable, and we have a very good relationship.She no longer tries to control me, she simply suggests ,and I try my best to fulfil her requests.



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I was never real close with my father... He was always occupied with my Step Mom, or working in the garage, hanging with buddies . I was closer with his Mom- my Grandma.... but I've always respected my Dad, he is a good man, he took care of me....I am actually a ton like him....in the way we view life , love, money, tough love approach with raising children, traditional values.

... I'd say my husband IS like my father (but softer)......when him & my dad would get together, they's always be on the same page -in everything they talked about..... Though my husband is much more involved with the kids over my dad.

My husband had a very loving childhood.... I can't say I am anything like his Mom in personality, interests or Looks. He was not looking to marry one like his Mom if He wanted me!

She is a very laid back sweet woman ...Not that I can't be sweet, but I am more feisty, more challenging....stuff she likes to do would bore me to tears...& stuff I like to do - she'd think that would be stressful or it might raise her blood pressure.

Sometimes our conversations would go like that, we just never had much in common.

Given that we start to establish our genders at about two years old, and that we have the most contact with out parents it is little wonder that our image of what it is to be male or female is founded on our parents we tend to marry people like our parents. This is more or less true for about 85 % of us. Others react negatively to the their parents and will marry people who are very different then their parents. I have traits that both my wife's father and my father had While my wife has many traits shared by our mothers. Of course there are differences too. My son is like me and his wife is very much his mother I have a friend who came from a home where the father was an alcoholic. She married an alcoholic, left him for a man she thought was not an alcoholic, but he became one. She married a total of five times, each one had alcohol problems.