Think of this -- knowing what you know now, would you really WANT kids with her? So her, IF she has kids with someone else, is now THEIR problem.Yes, I try to look at it in the same way. Even though I was ready and prepared as I could be for children, having her decide to run off with them would have made this situation much worse. And I appreciate the words of encouragement. I feel like I know what I should/have to do, even as hard as it may seem.