Hey all. I never thought it'd end up like this, but I'm a Soldier getting ready to deploy to Afghanistan. Tonight, while I have 24 hour duty, I caught my wife cheating on me. I caught her in a lie when I went home to surprise her and lie down in bed with her for an hour or two in the middle of the night. I texted her to ask where she was, she said at home in bed. Long story short she's at her boyfriend's house right now and she admitted to having sex with him this week. I told her that if she wants to work on the marriage, she would come home and leave the guy's house. She didn't. I still have about four hours of duty left and I get to deal with all of this anxiety and whatever else I'm feeling while she is sleeping comfortably in another man's bed. We've been married almost three years. I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for by posting this, maybe just some helpful thoughts on how to cope. Thank you for your time.