Hello all. I am new to things like this so I will probably fumble my way around for a bit trying to figure things out. But the main reason why I am here (probably like everyone else) is to gain some guidance concerning my marriage. We have been married since 2017 and been together since 2013. Like most relationships, in the beginning, things were great! We would go out and do things together. Our sex life was very active and spontaneous. She would tell me about how she got herself off that day and that she orgasmed 5 times... She would send me "fun" pics out of the blue...
Fast forward to 2020... We are a few years older...(I am 47 she is 41). We are both a little bigger than we used to be. And in my case, not everything works like it used to . We still go out and do things together. We still talk a lot. We still have a great relationship and she is my best friend. But that seems like where it may be heading... it feels more like I have a friend instead of a wife at times since our sex life has become virtually nonexistent.
Since she has gained some weight and is not happy with herself and her appearance (I am still very attracted to her). But couple the fact that she is not happy with herself and my parts don't work like they used to, her self-consciousness and anxiety are very high. And because of these issues, she has lost almost all interest in sex. She has told me that at this point she has no interest in sex at all. Not even to masturbate. Once a month or so she will give me handy or a bj... If I am really lucky we may even have intercourse. But this is once a month or less. And as she has said, "only to keep me happy". I have tried talking to her about it. Telling her that I am still very much attracted to her. I have obtained an rx for pills to help with "my issue"... But it doesn't go anywhere. She tells me that nothing I say will change her mind on how she sees or feels about herself. Or that she is happy to know that the only reason why I am here is "so I have somewhere to stick my ****" or "someone to ****"... I have told her that sex isn't the only thing that is on my mind... But I did tell her that I felt like sex is an important part of a healthy marriage. She of course disagreed. So I am hoping to contact and hear from other people that may have been through the same or a similar situation and what the outcome was.
Anyway, that is my situation in a nutshell and why I am here...
Fast forward to 2020... We are a few years older...(I am 47 she is 41). We are both a little bigger than we used to be. And in my case, not everything works like it used to . We still go out and do things together. We still talk a lot. We still have a great relationship and she is my best friend. But that seems like where it may be heading... it feels more like I have a friend instead of a wife at times since our sex life has become virtually nonexistent.
Since she has gained some weight and is not happy with herself and her appearance (I am still very attracted to her). But couple the fact that she is not happy with herself and my parts don't work like they used to, her self-consciousness and anxiety are very high. And because of these issues, she has lost almost all interest in sex. She has told me that at this point she has no interest in sex at all. Not even to masturbate. Once a month or so she will give me handy or a bj... If I am really lucky we may even have intercourse. But this is once a month or less. And as she has said, "only to keep me happy". I have tried talking to her about it. Telling her that I am still very much attracted to her. I have obtained an rx for pills to help with "my issue"... But it doesn't go anywhere. She tells me that nothing I say will change her mind on how she sees or feels about herself. Or that she is happy to know that the only reason why I am here is "so I have somewhere to stick my ****" or "someone to ****"... I have told her that sex isn't the only thing that is on my mind... But I did tell her that I felt like sex is an important part of a healthy marriage. She of course disagreed. So I am hoping to contact and hear from other people that may have been through the same or a similar situation and what the outcome was.
Anyway, that is my situation in a nutshell and why I am here...