We've been married for almost a year (our anniversary is in less than 20 days). We've weathered depression, military life, and storms of others, but now, he has started talking about divorce.
We knew each other in college, but hadn't spoke in several years. We reconnected online, and began an intense relationship quickly. After less than four months of dating, we were legally married, and had the pretty ceremony two months later, right before I left for boot camp. Military life put immense stress on both of us, being apart for the entirety of boot camp, and then only getting one day together before being separated for me to go to school.
It was here that I made a mistake. I kissed a guy from my class two months after being at school. Alcohol had become a major part of my life, and my husband and I were fighting constantly over the phone. Class was hard, and the military lifestyle of not having a vehicle and being around "children" 24/7 was wearing on me. I am 26 (husband is 27), and I was spending my time babysitting 18 and 19 year olds.
My husband found out about my indiscretion, and almost left me, understandably. Our lives changed dramatically. He moved out to my school location and asked me not to have anything to do with my classmates after school hours. I broke school rules constantly in order to make him happy and be with him (spending the night, skipping out on lunch).
School ended, and we packed up everything we owned and headed to the east coast. We have a handful of friends (most are mine from childhood), and I work a lot, anywhere from 40-60 hours a week, as well as volunteer with several groups. He has not been able to find a good, steady job since we arrived, and now, that is taking a toll. I don't do anything without talking to him, and try to go out of my way to make sure he feels appreciated and loved.
But now, he is talking divorce. He has become more and more depressed, and I just don't know what to do. I provided him with information for counseling, and tried to help him get jobs with temp agencies, but nothing seems to be working. He is slipping away from me, and I just don't know which way to turn now.
We knew each other in college, but hadn't spoke in several years. We reconnected online, and began an intense relationship quickly. After less than four months of dating, we were legally married, and had the pretty ceremony two months later, right before I left for boot camp. Military life put immense stress on both of us, being apart for the entirety of boot camp, and then only getting one day together before being separated for me to go to school.
It was here that I made a mistake. I kissed a guy from my class two months after being at school. Alcohol had become a major part of my life, and my husband and I were fighting constantly over the phone. Class was hard, and the military lifestyle of not having a vehicle and being around "children" 24/7 was wearing on me. I am 26 (husband is 27), and I was spending my time babysitting 18 and 19 year olds.
My husband found out about my indiscretion, and almost left me, understandably. Our lives changed dramatically. He moved out to my school location and asked me not to have anything to do with my classmates after school hours. I broke school rules constantly in order to make him happy and be with him (spending the night, skipping out on lunch).
School ended, and we packed up everything we owned and headed to the east coast. We have a handful of friends (most are mine from childhood), and I work a lot, anywhere from 40-60 hours a week, as well as volunteer with several groups. He has not been able to find a good, steady job since we arrived, and now, that is taking a toll. I don't do anything without talking to him, and try to go out of my way to make sure he feels appreciated and loved.
But now, he is talking divorce. He has become more and more depressed, and I just don't know what to do. I provided him with information for counseling, and tried to help him get jobs with temp agencies, but nothing seems to be working. He is slipping away from me, and I just don't know which way to turn now.