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Hi everyone,
New poster here. I have a little (perhaps not so little) dilemma and I've heard very good things about the Men's Clubhouse so that I would post.
So I'm in a relationship with a girl who is lovely, loving and caring. I like her very much. Although I fancy her, I feel that my physical attraction to her is not strong enough. I keep telling myself that looks aren't everything and as I'm still attracted to her it isn't really a problem. However, I spend much of my time thinking that I am not fully satisfied physically (and I don't mean sexually).
This is compounded and probably caused by a previous relationship. I was dating a girl for three years who was incredibly attractive (at the time I considered her to be 'out of my league' so to speak). Anyway, towards the end of this relationship, despite the physical attraction she was becoming slightly clingy, perhaps not clingy but controlling and I was allowing her to be this way. A lot of this was my error but I was young. So I ended things and to be honest have regretted it ever since. We've been apart for five years now. A couple of years back I tried to initiate things again whilst I was single but she was in a relationship (which she may still be in). She did show interest but of course it was all very complicated. Two years on and my feelings and lust towards my ex-girlfriend are affecting the way I think about my girlfriend.
I cannot work out whether I am in this relationship because I am truly happy, am scared of hurting my girlfriend's feelings by breaking up with (I'm not a typical nice guy but I find it impossible to break up with girls) or that I feel I have little chance in getting back with my ex-girlfriend. I'm sure I haven't given enough information but any help, advice or previous experience would be greatly received.
Thanks guys
New poster here. I have a little (perhaps not so little) dilemma and I've heard very good things about the Men's Clubhouse so that I would post.
So I'm in a relationship with a girl who is lovely, loving and caring. I like her very much. Although I fancy her, I feel that my physical attraction to her is not strong enough. I keep telling myself that looks aren't everything and as I'm still attracted to her it isn't really a problem. However, I spend much of my time thinking that I am not fully satisfied physically (and I don't mean sexually).
This is compounded and probably caused by a previous relationship. I was dating a girl for three years who was incredibly attractive (at the time I considered her to be 'out of my league' so to speak). Anyway, towards the end of this relationship, despite the physical attraction she was becoming slightly clingy, perhaps not clingy but controlling and I was allowing her to be this way. A lot of this was my error but I was young. So I ended things and to be honest have regretted it ever since. We've been apart for five years now. A couple of years back I tried to initiate things again whilst I was single but she was in a relationship (which she may still be in). She did show interest but of course it was all very complicated. Two years on and my feelings and lust towards my ex-girlfriend are affecting the way I think about my girlfriend.
I cannot work out whether I am in this relationship because I am truly happy, am scared of hurting my girlfriend's feelings by breaking up with (I'm not a typical nice guy but I find it impossible to break up with girls) or that I feel I have little chance in getting back with my ex-girlfriend. I'm sure I haven't given enough information but any help, advice or previous experience would be greatly received.
Thanks guys