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And yet most people utterly screw it up, wouldn't you agree?So let me get this straight.
1. Don't Lie to your spouse
2. Communicate your problems in a constructive way.
WOW that article was truly profound.
That’s one of Judge Judy’s sayings. It’s amazing how quickly she catches a liar out.I say....telling a lie, big or small, is asking for trouble. It's so much easier to just tell the truth, deal with what consequences there may be, and be done with it. It may sting for a bit, but in the long run our Husbands will respect us for it.
I like what another TAM member said recently: Tell the truth and you don't have to remember anything......or something to that effect anyway.
How would that be classified as a lie by omission? Unless you are on a diet and the box was 60 cookies? I'd think he'd realize they were gone anyway if he went to get one and there were no cookies to be found.I'm more likely to lie by omission than to outright fib.
I don't see the point in telling the truth all the time. Some things just need to be kept to yourself. For example does he really need to know that I just consumed an entire box of Oreo's in one sitting? Really? I wouldn't tell him nor would I lie about it.
What does it matter?
Because I've had a history with binge eating. He'd never know because they were never here to begin with. I'd drive to the store, purchase them, eat them all and then destroy the evidence.How would that be classified as a lie by omission? Unless you are on a diet and the box was 60 cookies? I'd think he'd realize they were gone anyway if he went to get one and there were no cookies to be found..
This right here is one of the problems I had with my husband, if I didn't ask the right questions in the past, I didn't get to theI'm more likely to lie by omission than to outright fib.
I don't see the point in telling the truth all the time. Some things just need to be kept to yourself. For example does he really need to know that I just consumed an entire box of Oreo's in one sitting? Really? I wouldn't tell him nor would I lie about it.
What does it matter?
And this makes sense , it really does. You have to work with what you have & so often, where another is at ...what they can handle.SA my husband doesn't want to know. Maybe one day he will now that we're getting closer but for now he's pretty much had it with my depression, ptsd, and brokenness.
So I keep most of this to myself. I only discuss it when I absolutely have to.
So do I lie? Absolutely. Its how I keep my marriage stable, sane and peaceful.
I truly believe that applies to more people than anyone would ever care to admit to.My husband wants a smooth life and that means while he may think he wants honestly he really doesn't.
I think the whole point is that the obvious isn't obvious to everyone.So let me get this straight.
1. Don't Lie to your spouse
2. Communicate your problems in a constructive way.
WOW that article was truly profound.
She might read this Mr Wysh & you'll beI lie to Mrs Wysh all the time.
For instance she will come in from work and I will ask how her day/morning at work went.
I really couldn't care less that they were mean to her because she has a desk full of work, and somebody placed a huge pile of 'renewals' on her desk, plus she has to arrange the travel and hotel for her MD etc.
But I know she likes it and she likes to vent to me. I have got very good at pretending to be interested over the years. I've also learned not to try and 'fix' it for her. Most I do now is at appropriate moments shake my head, say "Did they, really tsk"