[Cherry]

H suggests I get 50 shades to help turn me on? My suggestion is we wait for this move to be over.. he's complaining we're down to 1/week. Stress kills my libido.. it increases his apparently. I don't think 1/week is unfair, but I'll entertain his suggestion... Will 50 shades get me turn me on? A gf of mine suggested it to me a while back.. said it does wonders for her marriage. Just ne er checked it out.

 

[ScarletBegonias]

if you like poorly written books then go for it. otherwise it'll turn you off and put you in a foul mood as it did for me lol

there are SO many other amazing erotica books out there...if you're an avid reader you will find 50 shades seriously lacking and extremely boring.

 

[CandieGirl]

...not to mention completely unrealistic. If you want to read about a simpering 21 year old virgin who orgasms again and again (her first time), by all means, go for it...simpering 21 year old virgins who bat and flutter their eyelashes at some idiot abusive prick doesn't do it for me...;p

 

[Cherry]

Maybe I'll check out amazon and see what else is out there. I do like erotica.. but what I told H is that I didn't want a "false" turn-on towards him. Kind of like I don't want him to watch porn and then come to me with a hard on. But he told me he'd take anything right now and he won't be offended.. I guess he's being honest.

 

[ScarletBegonias]

do you like more lovey dovey erotica or are you more into the harsh stuff?
personally,i like both but i can only take the lovey stuff for so long before i roll my eyes and read something else.

 

[Cherry]

do you like more lovey dovey erotica or are you more into the harsh stuff?
personally,i like both but i can only take the lovey stuff for so long before i roll my eyes and read something else.

More harsh stuff. Suggestions?

 

[Mavash.]

If you're in the middle of a stressful move while caring for young children when does he think you'll have TIME to read an actual book? LOL

 

[Mavash.]

I can't read those type novels unless it has a decent story line. So I go for bestselling authors.

 

[CandieGirl]

You ladies do realize that if it as a man on here, asking what type of porn he could watch to get more in the mood for his wife...that we'd be stringing him up...?

;p

 

[ScarletBegonias]

More harsh stuff. Suggestions?

try the sleeping beauty trilogy. a very good friend of mine raved about it so i bought the series.Read them all but it took a while because it's SO WEIRD and INTENSE.

While not all the parts were a turn on for me, there were just enough scenes to make me breathless and throbby

I had to keep putting it down and coming back to it bc I'd get so into the story it felt like my brain was going to explode from the intensity and the detailed way Anne Rice writes.

Again,there are a LOT of very strange things happening and described in that book but it's still the best erotica series I've ever read.

 

[ScarletBegonias]

You ladies do realize that if it as a man on here, asking what type of porn he could watch to get more in the mood for his wife...that we'd be stringing him up...?

;p

You know I wouldn't lol but yes many many would! :iagree:

 

[Mavash.]

You ladies do realize that if it as a man on here, asking what type of porn he could watch to get more in the mood for his wife...that we'd be stringing him up...?

;p

My husband tries to compare romance novels to porn and honestly I just don't see it. It's a BOOK. But yes I have known a few women to get hooked on them so I guess its similar. They'd rather read about sex than actually have it. LOL

 

[Cherry]

If you're in the middle of a stressful move while caring for young children when does he think you'll have TIME to read an actual book? LOL

Right? I did remind that this won't happen until after we're settled in.. he can stomp around all he wants about my even lower than normal sex drive this week. But I do try to understand his more than likely increase over the stress too... Either that or he's watching porn secretly again.. which increases his drive.. doubtful, most likely stress.

 

[CandieGirl]

I wouldn't mind at all if my husband wanted to read erotica...better than watching that crappy mainstream porn, anyway. But he's too LAZY!

 

[ScarletBegonias]

If i had caught my exSO chillin reading erotica,my thong would have been around my ankles immediately something so awesome about a man reading a kinky book.i can't explain it

 

[Mavash.]

I wouldn't mind at all if my husband wanted to read erotica...better than watching that crappy mainstream porn, anyway. But he's too LAZY!

Unless it has pictures my husband won't read. I knew one man that read romance novels. I'd chat with him at the pool (our boys were friends) and see the titles. LOL

 

[Cherry]

You ladies do realize that if it as a man on here, asking what type of porn he could watch to get more in the mood for his wife...that we'd be stringing him up...?

;p

Even if his wife suggests it?

 

[CandieGirl]

My husband tries to compare romance novels to porn and honestly I just don't see it. It's a BOOK. But yes I have known a few women to get hooked on them so I guess its similar. They'd rather read about sex than actually have it. LOL

There really is no comparison, IMHO. That's just the excuse (some) men use to justify their own porn use. I've even heard it compared with that TV series about vampires...seriously? That's 'women's porn'?

I love reading erotica; but reading allows you to visualize your own scenarios, not the trashy-blonde-tanned-with-implants-porn the guys are all watching. There's no comparison. My own imagination is much hotter

 

[CandieGirl]

Even if his wife suggests it?

The wife suggesting it is usually the exception to the rule, at least from what I see on TAM. I'd rather my husband read and use his own imagination. But that's another topic altogether!

 

[MaritimeGuy]

My husband tries to compare romance novels to porn and honestly I just don't see it. It's a BOOK. But yes I have known a few women to get hooked on them so I guess its similar. They'd rather read about sex than actually have it. LOL

Some women object to their husbands watching porn because they fear it gives him unrealistic expectations. Romance novels could do the same.

In real life most of us guys are not independantly wealthy CEO's of our own companies with plenty of time to fly our paramours to exotic locales and feed them exotic cuisine at 5 star restaurants. :scratchhead: