Hi there! I am 39 yrs old and have been married for almost 18 years. We have two kids, and yes, I have gained weight since we first met. In the beginning my husband used to give me oral sex all the time! Even after a workout, he would still go down on me. Now, honestly I can’t remember the last time he’s gone down on me. I give him a BJ, or at least go down on him several times a week. But he just doesn’t. I know he’s mentioned how hard it is to breathe sometimes but for us ladies, we can sometimes have those issues while giving a BJ. Doesn’t mean we don’t. Question is, is there a big difference between giving oral to a skinny wife or one whose gained some weight over the years? I work out, but I’m still overweight yet. But I’m in the military I’m not that over weight. I don’t want to ask why he doesn’t anymore- scared to hear his answer I guess. What are the thoughts of the males here as to what I am doing wrong.