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after 30 years (25 married) of being in a stable relationship and having just seen the last of our children leave home i have finally discovered 'love'. The problem is that it is not for my wife! In truth for the last 10 years or so I have felt unconnected to my wife and have been looking for romantic affection with other women. After a few non physical 'friendships' I finally met a woman 3 years ago and experienced that feeling I last had when I was a teenager! We met and mostly talked and dreamt of a future together. At the time we decided it could not go any further as we were both in marriages with children. Two years later our mutual unhappiness has not ended and our attraction for one another is stronger than ever. We have started meeting again and we are now both talking seriously of being together.
It is hard for me to leave my marriage: it is safe for me and it is all I have known since I was 20. I have always done the responsible thing for my family even if I have neglected my own needs along the way. But I feel I am living a lie and now that I have found someone who I really connect to I don't want to just continue to exist but I want to really live and find happiness. But I am scared and fear things not working out and then regretting ending my 'safe' family life. Should I risk the 'safe' family life I have built up with my wife for the chance of real love and happiness.
It is hard for me to leave my marriage: it is safe for me and it is all I have known since I was 20. I have always done the responsible thing for my family even if I have neglected my own needs along the way. But I feel I am living a lie and now that I have found someone who I really connect to I don't want to just continue to exist but I want to really live and find happiness. But I am scared and fear things not working out and then regretting ending my 'safe' family life. Should I risk the 'safe' family life I have built up with my wife for the chance of real love and happiness.