then you dont want her.
It must really be that simple.
A man doesnt just leave his wife behind and leave state. Decide to just up and go.
i couldnt picture leaving my wife behind and just saying bye. And forget verbal whatever. We went through a stage when we were younger we fought like cats and dogs. she went after my car with a screw driver once. slapped me accross the face more than once. i smashed a few of her cellphones. I drove one vehicle into the ditch just because it was her car and i knew she couldnt get it back out.
for a certain period, i mean we like really fought. i lost track of how many times the cops were called on us. She left me once with the car and i had to walk.
but she ended up coming back for me of course.
i still wouldnt have left her behind. Despite whatever. Or her me. i wouldnt have. If i went somewhere, she went with me. vice versa. Know what i mean? just how it is.
Then eventually, you realize no one is going to win. And you both get tired of being miserable. And by now you know eachother pretty well. And decide to get along, and be happy. If for no other reason you are tired of fighting with eachother and going round and round. Then you finally, lay off eachother, stop worrying, fighting, analyzing, and give eachother a hug and kiss and go have a drink or go ride a roller coaster at a amusement park instead of making your relationship into one needlessly.
Then you kind of look back, and laugh at how you were, and type on some web page about how you once fought toothe and nail with your spouse, like every day. And no one ever seemed to actually win anything despite all the fighting.
i think most people that go to marriage counselors end up divorced. i wont go as far to say counseling is going to see some quack, but i would be interested to know the success statistics on it and what exactly qualifies these people to be counselors since my own marriage counselor i had once couldnt even keep his own marriages together and was divorced.
But to just leave your girl behind.. well that seems very odd. unless you have some serious reason or just decided you dont want her.
i couldnt imagine just deciding to leave my wife behind. What a odd concept. She is like part of me.