Well some of you probably remember my thread in Considering Divorce section. For quite a while my husband had been distant and then eventually moved out of the house to which I found out thanks to my Mums PI that a women (much younger I will add) is living with him in our apartment which is on the other side of city.
I confronted him about the affair in the end while the OW was there. She did not know he was married and had children. She has since left him and moved out of the apartment to which I came home from work one day and my husband was sitting in the lounge watching tv, despite me having the locks changed, he had a locksmith come back out and cut him a key to match the new locks and called the security company to change the alarm code back to what it was before and I found out through the police that I can't stop him from doing this because his name is on the title as well. I pleaded for him to leave, in the end we ended up having a very big screaming match (which my neighbours heard, very embarrassing) where he confessed that for the last 8 years he has cheated on me with a number of women. How I was so blind I don't know and I am really angry with myself for not noticing anything. I have never lashed out in anger but that day he refused to leave because he kept saying that it was his house and that he paid for it and just wouldn't leave the house. I lashed out and him and he slammed me against the dining room wall pushing me back. He let go of me because I was screaming even louder to let me go. I walked into the kitchen to grab my mobile to call Mum and all of a sudden he swings me around making my phone fling out of my hand and wraps me in a hug squeezing me, he was saying that he is not going anywhere and neither am I. I started kicking him and was trying to pushing him back by hitting his chest. He somehow grabbed both of my arms and slammed be against the kitchen bench and lent over me so I couldn't move then raised his fists threatening to hit me. Why I said it but I was saying just hit me because I don't care anymore because I just don't care, I don't love him and feel sick of him ever been next to me again or even near me, it just makes my skin crawl. He turned around and punched the wall three times which now I have to get fixed. Then he left, despite all his throw backs saying that its his house.
Mum said there is no point calling the police about it because he never physically hit me or hurt me. Also I started it my lashing out at him because I was so angry and even more hurt after he told me that he has been sleeping with OW for 8 years.
I told my divorce lawyer all of what happened and she referred me to a security company which they change the locks but the keys are secured keys like registered keys which are expensive and hard to come by plus you need a particular code to have the key cut again. So have had this done and changed the alarm code again. All just a hell of a nightmare. A friend of mine who also went through a nasty divorce said that it is only going to get worse as the work towards divorce is like a second job. I remember the way she put it. You have to put so much into your marriage and you have to put so much into your divorce.
Wedding & Engagement rings are officially off the finger as of yesterday. Given them to my Mum to hold onto for my children to have when I am old and die. Ha! Its going to be a long ride.
I confronted him about the affair in the end while the OW was there. She did not know he was married and had children. She has since left him and moved out of the apartment to which I came home from work one day and my husband was sitting in the lounge watching tv, despite me having the locks changed, he had a locksmith come back out and cut him a key to match the new locks and called the security company to change the alarm code back to what it was before and I found out through the police that I can't stop him from doing this because his name is on the title as well. I pleaded for him to leave, in the end we ended up having a very big screaming match (which my neighbours heard, very embarrassing) where he confessed that for the last 8 years he has cheated on me with a number of women. How I was so blind I don't know and I am really angry with myself for not noticing anything. I have never lashed out in anger but that day he refused to leave because he kept saying that it was his house and that he paid for it and just wouldn't leave the house. I lashed out and him and he slammed me against the dining room wall pushing me back. He let go of me because I was screaming even louder to let me go. I walked into the kitchen to grab my mobile to call Mum and all of a sudden he swings me around making my phone fling out of my hand and wraps me in a hug squeezing me, he was saying that he is not going anywhere and neither am I. I started kicking him and was trying to pushing him back by hitting his chest. He somehow grabbed both of my arms and slammed be against the kitchen bench and lent over me so I couldn't move then raised his fists threatening to hit me. Why I said it but I was saying just hit me because I don't care anymore because I just don't care, I don't love him and feel sick of him ever been next to me again or even near me, it just makes my skin crawl. He turned around and punched the wall three times which now I have to get fixed. Then he left, despite all his throw backs saying that its his house.
Mum said there is no point calling the police about it because he never physically hit me or hurt me. Also I started it my lashing out at him because I was so angry and even more hurt after he told me that he has been sleeping with OW for 8 years.
I told my divorce lawyer all of what happened and she referred me to a security company which they change the locks but the keys are secured keys like registered keys which are expensive and hard to come by plus you need a particular code to have the key cut again. So have had this done and changed the alarm code again. All just a hell of a nightmare. A friend of mine who also went through a nasty divorce said that it is only going to get worse as the work towards divorce is like a second job. I remember the way she put it. You have to put so much into your marriage and you have to put so much into your divorce.
Wedding & Engagement rings are officially off the finger as of yesterday. Given them to my Mum to hold onto for my children to have when I am old and die. Ha! Its going to be a long ride.
