I taken a new job out of state and my wife won't be able to join me until the spring due to job and other reasons. I have been away for 2 months now and am visiting for the holidays. 5 days ago while having some cuddle time I asked her out of the blue had she ever cheated on , me. She paused briefley and said she had something to tell me. She confessed to an affair that happened about 20 years ago. This was while I was deployed to Korea. She went on th say she couldn't remember who he was but recalled vague details about him as time went on. She said it was horrible, she didn't enjoy it. Never saw him again, said he was stupid and on and on. I am still in a state of shock with all kinds of questions. She has excellent recall about things but says she is not going to talk about it because she has carried it for 20 years and won't carry it any longer. I don't feel she has any regards to what I am feeling. Like I said, right now I am numb and don't know how to proceed. Anyone else been where I am now?