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OSF = opposite sex friend.
So there's this very-long-time OSF of mine [for whom I've talked about a few times here].
Since he moved into my city a couple of months ago, he has asked me several times [almost every week] to go over at his apartment, to watch a movie and spend the night there.
On a side note to give some history: We have shared beds together in the past. Nothing has really happened except for him cuddling up with me and caressing me during the night....but neither have I responded nor have I rejected. This happened whenever we used to travel while always ended up getting one hotel room in order not to spend money.
Even when we had separate beds he would always get into my bed.
In the past, we had discussed about being in a relationship together but I rejected the idea due to his instability when in a relationship and WE agreed not to take it further.
So, we don't come up with the idea of being in a relationship together anymore and I think we're indifferent to this idea.
Fast forward , he asked me again today to go over at his place but I'm still hesitant.
What is the point really? Why should two OSF sleep in the same bed when there are chances to avoid this? What's the point of him caressing me, cuddling up with me, kissing my cheek and neck at night, touching my back and arms ..massaging them, ... when he's just a friend?
To me, that's not a friendly act. It's what lovers do.
He says there's nothing wrong and that's how really close friends act. Is it true? Am I wrong?
Do any of you guys do this with you OSF if you're single? Did you use to in the past?
Would you?
So there's this very-long-time OSF of mine [for whom I've talked about a few times here].
Since he moved into my city a couple of months ago, he has asked me several times [almost every week] to go over at his apartment, to watch a movie and spend the night there.
On a side note to give some history: We have shared beds together in the past. Nothing has really happened except for him cuddling up with me and caressing me during the night....but neither have I responded nor have I rejected. This happened whenever we used to travel while always ended up getting one hotel room in order not to spend money.
Even when we had separate beds he would always get into my bed.
In the past, we had discussed about being in a relationship together but I rejected the idea due to his instability when in a relationship and WE agreed not to take it further.
So, we don't come up with the idea of being in a relationship together anymore and I think we're indifferent to this idea.
Fast forward , he asked me again today to go over at his place but I'm still hesitant.
What is the point really? Why should two OSF sleep in the same bed when there are chances to avoid this? What's the point of him caressing me, cuddling up with me, kissing my cheek and neck at night, touching my back and arms ..massaging them, ... when he's just a friend?
To me, that's not a friendly act. It's what lovers do.
He says there's nothing wrong and that's how really close friends act. Is it true? Am I wrong?
Do any of you guys do this with you OSF if you're single? Did you use to in the past?
Would you?