My wife and I have been married 20 years we are in our late 30s. Short story she had a affair with a coworker 10 years ago. Shortly after the affair started she admitted to me what happen. Basically the guy was alot older than us, not good in bed, drug addicted, bi-polar and my wife figured him out after he was caught in the parking lot at work with a prostitute. Then there is me successful wealth and not bad looking.He swept my wife off her feet by telling her how much better she was than his wife and how lame I was. We were both young and dumb. Since then we have had years of counseling and the best life I could imagine basically we are inseparable now. I had not even thought of the affair in quite some time, I went to get my truck serviced and noticed the idiot was the Serviceman. He did not recognize me at first, so I left him a stupid note about what a real loser he is and how great our life is since he showed my wife what believing a idiot leads to. I get home,tell my wife first thing who I saw and how close she came to screwing up her life. Then she starts sending me text about how fortunate she was to keep me and sorry she is about what she had done. That night she initiated some really good sex. After the sex I felt relieved and relaxed about the situation. Is all this normal after 10 years of a affair. Will a I have a break down if triggered like this in the future. It kinda opened up a can of worms I thought was long gone.