Full stop.She threatened divorce and even claimed she had an 'affair' arranged and would act on it.
I'm super introvert. I love my time alone. I crave time alone.YOUR sensibilities are fine for YOU. We are all different. I agree, I should not have given in and gone with them on my vacation. BTW I told them just that, it's not them, it's me. I love witty, clever interaction with intelligent, well educated people. In fact, that is why my wife wanted to marry me, because I make her and her friends laugh. You seem to be saying that any spouse, should be willing to have an intimate 2 week vacation with ANYONE, under any circumstances. Is that correct?
well she’s no saint. And angry words or not, the underlined statement—— not even my ****ty ex would have thought of saying something that outrageous.That is exactly what I want to know. When she gets angry, she says things I know she does not mean, but they still hurt. She threatened divorce and even claimed she had an 'affair' arranged and would act on it. I told her if she really felt that way the marriage was already over. Yes, like many people I am more introverted than others. I like to write, to learn, to explore new ideas. I take vacations alone and make new friends. I love it. I just don't like being controlled and being stuck with people who are more like clients than friends. (I had a successful 40 year professional career before retiring). I prefer having a few very close friends, to having many superficial ones.
In fairness to my wife, most of my relatives and friends think she is a 'saint' for putting up with me. I agree. She is generous to fault. I love her. I never mind in the least when she goes out with friends. I just don't want them living with me.
Threatening to have sex with another man, because she can't make you be around the people she wants on vacation, is pretty ill.
The threat was when I said I was moving to another hotel. I knew, on some level, she didn't mean it, but....
This is the first time in 20 years she ever made a threat like that. She was desperate to control me and lost her temper. I get it. We have 'fights' all the time and make up the next day. I'm afraid we both know we are stuck with each other and 99% of the time life is great with her. This is the first time in my life I've put a question like this to a marriage forum.