I totally agree! But it’s worth mentioning that I asked to see him about 15 days ago because I was already coming to his town for my friend’s party. Honestly I’d never drive that far just for a first date. This past Friday was the date. On Monday I sent the “Wordle” text, and today is Wednesday. So maybe it’s too early to say that he isn’t coming here to see me?Honestly, you share many interests but you live an hour and a half away.
That makes you 'GU' - Geographically Unacceptable.
He's not putting a lot of energy into pursuing you seriously probably because you live too far away. You had to reach out to him first, you had to come to his town in order for you two to even get together, and it's been you doing most of the contact and making all the effort.
He never makes an effort to come to your town just to see you, does he? But he'll tell you to "stop by" where HE works to 'play music.' The only time you've seen him is when YOU have made the effort to go to where he lives. Hell, it was the least he could have done when he bought you dinner on your date since you traveled that far to see him, so don't be too impressed that he paid for dinner. If I had to travel for an hour and a half to meet some guy and then he also expected me to split the dinner bill on TOP of that, that would have been the end of it right then and there. And honestly, introducing you to his friends at a party after you left the restaurant is hardly the same as if he took you to meet his parents - it was a perfect type of place to hang out after dinner and to be social and have fun - and the drinks were free. If you're attractive, they like taking you around their friends because it makes them look good and being with others is a great buffer zone, to be honest. But if you look like Frankenstein's bride, they won't bring you out in the sunlight and embarrass themselves, so it's not that big a deal that he took you to a friend's party. It's pretty simple but it honestly doesn't mean much at all.
People say things in the heat of the moment and that's why he was talking about 'future' things with you. The reality is that if you continue to be the one to make all the effort and do all the traveling to his town or YOU go to where he works, he'd probably love to do everything he talked about doing. But if you leave it up to HIM to be the one to think it, plan it, come to you and make it happen, then you have a better chance of shaking hands with Jesus.
I agree with the others, stop contacting him and being the only one to make things happen. But don't be surprised when he eventually disappears.
I'm just being realistic.
He did mention when we were saying goodbye that he was going to let me know soon when he was in my town because he will come here before the show. Because we live kinda of far away then maybe the best option is to try to see each other when we have business in each other’s towns at least in the beginning? He just moved out of my town also and is still dealing with moving stuff. So idk. But I still think that my gut feeling is right idk