Curious if I’m the only one who thinks there is a double-standard between the sexes on the phrase spelled out in the title? Do you think people use that phrase as a way to dodge culpability in something they should own but choose not to. I also feel like woman get a pass but guys do not because women remind us their under such societal pressure (which I do believe exists BTW).
Specifically if the woman says “it’s never good enough for you” the guy has to back down and respect that “that’s how she is” and he’s ass for bringing it up. If he says it, it’s a flimsy excuse and he’s not owning it. It’s almost as if she’s using the phrase to deflect any criticism whatsoever.
If the following “are “not good enough” he has to own it and fix it:
- work ethic, salary, standard of living
- being more romantic
- doing more with kids
- zoning out or not engaging more
- not listening
- eating and fitness habits
- developing stronger religious faith
- watching less sports
- noticing other women/avoiding porn
- desiring enthusiastic sex
- dressing like a slob
- not wanting to go out on a date
- housework or home maintenance equity
- drinking, smoking less
- speaking her love languages
- supporting her passions / hobbies
If the following are not good enough he needs to accept her for who she is and quit try to change her:
- spending more than they make
- house, car, finances in general
- unenthusiastic sex or (wanting too much sex)
- dressing down 24/7
- poor eating habits
- listening to respond not take in
- obsession with social media and Pinterest
- dating the kids rather than dating your spouse
- minimal interest his passions
- addressing medical issues
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Specifically if the woman says “it’s never good enough for you” the guy has to back down and respect that “that’s how she is” and he’s ass for bringing it up. If he says it, it’s a flimsy excuse and he’s not owning it. It’s almost as if she’s using the phrase to deflect any criticism whatsoever.
If the following “are “not good enough” he has to own it and fix it:
- work ethic, salary, standard of living
- being more romantic
- doing more with kids
- zoning out or not engaging more
- not listening
- eating and fitness habits
- developing stronger religious faith
- watching less sports
- noticing other women/avoiding porn
- desiring enthusiastic sex
- dressing like a slob
- not wanting to go out on a date
- housework or home maintenance equity
- drinking, smoking less
- speaking her love languages
- supporting her passions / hobbies
If the following are not good enough he needs to accept her for who she is and quit try to change her:
- spending more than they make
- house, car, finances in general
- unenthusiastic sex or (wanting too much sex)
- dressing down 24/7
- poor eating habits
- listening to respond not take in
- obsession with social media and Pinterest
- dating the kids rather than dating your spouse
- minimal interest his passions
- addressing medical issues
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