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  1. What do I do?

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    Im going through a separation that is especially tough. I was with my husband for a 15 years. We have a 2 year old son, and a baby on the way. 2 1/2 months ago I found out he was having an affair. This is not the first time. 2 years ago he had something similar with someone else, but I was...
  2. My husband constantly says I am lazy

    General Relationship Discussion
    I am an ICU nurse, and I have been married to my husband for almost 10 months. We have lived together for about three years. The first year we were living together I worked a lot, and picked up a lot of extra shifts. He would complain that I worked too much, and didn't contribute at home enough...
  3. Escape during an attack, good advice?

    General Relationship Discussion
    My husband screams, swears, slams doors intermittently over the most trivial things, like me moving some papers from one desk to another two feet away, or me not changing the tv chanel when he asks me to, he uses highly emotive and blaming language, and it is very loud, vicious, and over in a...
  4. Need Help/Advice: Fight with Husband :(

    The Ladies' Lounge
    I just got in a fight with my husband and needed some advice. My husband had kidney stone surgery on Friday and I've been taking care of him. This afternoon I asked him what he wanted for lunch and he asked me to buy him some chicken soup from Whole Foods. When I came back with the soup he got...
  5. i love my husband but he's bad in bed, no chemistry

    General Relationship Discussion
    I am worn out and heartbroken. My handsome husband of ten years, who I love so much, has never had a huge sex drive, but it's reached an all-time low. I am devastated and desperate- and he thinks everything is fine! Plus - oh, I feel so awful saying this- he is bad in bed. :( Please help, or...
  6. Husband with Cancer wants Divorce

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    Hi, All! I will try to be as concise as possible summing up nearly 15 years of marriage. Eight months into our marriage, my husband wrote me a letter asking if I was doing the "best I could do." I was working full time, but he was upset about me not doing the housework. He said he wanted...
  7. Can I Change Myself to End the Chaos?- LONG!!

    General Relationship Discussion
    Hi, I am new to the forum and I am turning to "the internet" because I am an isolated stay-at-home mother who doesn't get out much... and I have no one to talk to. I am 33, my husband is 36 and our daughter is 18 months old. We've been together 11 years and married 9 years; none of which have...
  8. So Scared and so Confused

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    My husband at first seemed like my white knight, but about a year after our marriage his real self began to show. One day he is nice and polite and the next becomes a raging verbal abuser. My son and I have walked on eggshells around this man for 15 years. The more we tried to calm him the more...
  9. Really tired of his behavior and this was the last straw.

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    I'll start at the beginning to lay down a background. It was 1985 and I was in the Air Force at technical training school at Sheppard AFB in Wichita Falls TX. I met another young airman in the cafeteria and we started dating. Perhaps I was not thinking or was still too immature to recognize...
  10. Cyber Affair & Further Issues

    Coping with Infidelity
    Hi, I am writing here because I came across this site whilst looking for advice on how to deal with my partner having several cyber affairs. It seemed like people were sharing some good advice and I would love for anyone to suggest anything to me that they feel might help in my situation. I...
  11. can verbal abuse be fixed?

    General Relationship Discussion
    I have been in a relationship for 15 months now and we live together. We seriously talk about marriage but there is one thing holding me back... my boyfriend is verbally abusive... I feel like I figured this out pretty quick when we moved in together just 6 months ago and I started doing a lot...
  12. Verbal abuse, can you relate?

    General Relationship Discussion
    Hi there! This is the first time I have posted on a site like this, I'm hoping some of you might be able to identify with my situation, and perhaps offer some support, if not solutions to my problem. In brief, my husband, for the 8 years of our 8 and a half year marriage, has shouted at me for...
  13. He's verbally abusive..will he change?

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    My DH and I have only been married for 9 months and have been together for almost 7 years (will be 7 years in 11 days). He has done a lot of things to me to break my trust and hurt me in the past. He cheated on me twice in the beginning of our relationship. I forgave him after the first time (7...
  14. Verbal abuse on tape

    General Relationship Discussion
    I put together this video to document what verbal abuse sounds like and what it feels like to me: Domestic abuse caught on tape - YouTube Despite what you hear, he is actually very involved as a father, but he's also very controlling of our kids' opinion about me. I'm afraid of what might...
  15. Emotional Abuser

    General Relationship Discussion
    Hi, First time here and it looks like it's long overdue. My fiance and I finally had a big blowout where she actually left with a lot of her stuff and hasn't talked to me for a few days. She's coming around a little bit, but is still standoffish...I don't even know where she's staying. I...
  16. How do you stop the verbal abuse?

    General Relationship Discussion
    Obviously I'm not a very good judge of women, because I have been married three time and to what almost appears to be the same woman. With the exception that this one becomes a little violent at times. If I complain or challenge her she calls me a P*ssy. One time she even dialed 911 and told the...
  17. My husband threatened to leave if i walked away from an argument

    General Relationship Discussion
    A few days ago my husband and I started to argue.. I really can't remember why or what it was even about but he slipped into old habits (that I thought we had worked out) and called me a rude name. I then told him I would not have the discussion while we were this mad at each other and walked...
  18. Weary of it all...this is long.

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    I've been married almost 20 years...less that a month to go to my anniversary. The last 12 years have totally sucked...truly awful. Our first years were pretty happy. Hubby started to become very jealous, but I always figured he'd settle down in time, he'd come to know I'm a loyal gal. And...
  19. Am I in a verbally abusive relationship? Do I need to get out?

    General Relationship Discussion
    I am trying to decide if my husband is verbally abusive or if I am overreacting due to abuse and severe bullying which occured during my own childhood. I wonder if he is simply the wrong person for me or if I have unreasonable expectations and wrong perceptions. I simply don't know if I should...
  20. Husband has Bipolar and anger issues. help

    Physical & Mental Health Issues
    My husband has been diagnosed with border line bipolar disorder, took meds for a month and quit. sought no therapy. this was a couple years ago. since then and before we have been on a rollar coaster. nearly everyday we can start out ok but by mid-day he is ticked off at somthing and takes his...
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