ultimatums

I need some clarification on boundaries, expectations, and ultimatums. I want to set a clear boundary, but I don’t want it to become an ultimatum. The situations: My husband and I are both employed full time at the same company. For him, it’s the company he wanted to work at since he was a...

My husband of 12 years just told my son (20 and from previous marriage) he had 6 months to move out. I asked, "and if he doesn't?" Husband's response was that I would have to make a decision. (Argument ensued in which I had to tell my husband to get in the house.) This stemmed from my husband...