So.. I imagine it would be difficult to post a question here and get any meaningful advice, as no stranger can know the history of a relationship. This will probably be very disjointed. I guess I could preface this post with, I'm a normal flawed human being just like everyone else and...

This is a kind of a long story. I will give a little background first. I am 37 and she is 33. We have been married just over 3 years. We have 5 kids in a blended family. We had a quick courtship of only 30 days. The first 2.5 years things were good between us but we had financial and housing...