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  1. A Divided Heart of Pain; Tainted Eyes

    Coping with Infidelity
    Hello to all, My story begins with the meeting of me and my spouse. We meet in high school and we have a great relationship. We were each others first love and sexual partner. We both attended church, we both shared the same values and goals. Early in our relationship we spent a great...
  2. Severed emotional connection. How do I get it back if want it back?

    General Relationship Discussion
    First of all, this is coming from a place of hurt. My hurt, and I'm still trying to process it and my thoughts and feelings. I've been with my spouse for over 20 years. We've had our good times and bad, but through it all, we had each other. We were best friends and in sync with each other and...
  3. Dealing with Fibro

    Physical & Mental Health Issues
    My wife has suffered for several years with chronic pain and fatigue among other things. That seems to be on top of her list of discomforts. She called me one afternoon several weeks ago: "I have Fibromyalgia!" she said, sounding almost happy; way more excited than anyone who was just...
  4. Is there any hope.../...how to cope?

    General Relationship Discussion
    It is clear to me now that my marrige is close to being over. Due to significantly different feelings regarding intimacy i have felt alone and unwanted for far too long. I still have a glimmer or hope that we will work it out, however i have lost all drive to fight for it and truely feel like...
  5. Physical anxiety

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    Horrible chest pains and nausea making it hard to deal physically with dealing with being under the same roof as my husband until we can hash out custody agreement for our son for during the separation. Right now he has agreed I can take our son on a planned trip to see my family over the...
  6. Fight with husband

    General Relationship Discussion
    I have been married to my husband for 6 years. Last night we had an argument. He was trying to walk outside to feed the horses. I keep blocking his way to get outside trying to get him to talk to me. He picked me up under my arms forcefully and tossed me on the couch. I jumped back up to stop he...
  7. In my mind I know I'll be well but sometimes my heart fails me

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    Dear all, I guess some of you have read my story and some of you may read it for the first time. I do not want to go through it as it is painful and embarrassing that I never new the man that was next to me for 7 years. He not only played a role for me, he played a role for my whole family...
  8. Divorce, anxiety, and chest pains. Please help me.

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    I'll cut straight to the point. My wife and I have had issues for a couple years, and to make a long story short, she moved out in December 2012 on her own accord. I didn't want a divorce, but she did. It's been a long, hard road since then, but the divorce is finally happening this month...
  9. how to stop the broken record?

    Coping with Infidelity
    Hi everyone! I'm new here and need help... I'm a BS with a DDay March 6, 2012. A day hasn't gone by that some detail or memory of the events haven't been in my mind. We have been trying to reconcile but the pain seems too much at times. We are both new parents to a 2 month old but it's hard to...
  10. I am trying to be ok.

    Coping with Infidelity
    My Husband is having an affair. We were together for 8 years and married for 3. Our kids were raised together. I have had 3 Ddays and he convinced me each time that it was nothing. Oh the crazy lies and me believing them. The last one was the final straw. I have asked him to leave and am no...
  11. On betrayal

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    I'm 8 months out from dday, D is final 2/26. There's still pain and until recently I thought it was missing her and our life together, family etc. But I've been thinking deeply about the 18 years we were married, and in most respects it was not very satisfying, emotionally or physically. I...
  12. How long does the pain last?

    Physical & Mental Health Issues
    I can't take much more of the pain and rejection. I feel like I'm exploding on the inside. I can't think straight, my work is suffering, my body hurts, I can't eat, and my mind is racing all the time. I can't sleep. The short story is that my wife (37yo, married for 11 years) told me after...
  13. Betrayed spouses and why so much pain

    Coping with Infidelity
    I'm constantly thinking about the level of pain infidelity causes the BS, and while it does seem to be lessening as time passes, it's so bad it's almost laughable. My wife was my best friend, then in 10 seconds she wasn't. She was no longer the person I could confide my deepest feelings to, the...
  14. Does the pain of a cheating wife ever go away?

    Coping with Infidelity
    This might be a long post I'm not sure yet. Anyways, my wife, we'll call her PJ, and I met in high school. I was 17 and PJ was 15, we were in band together and she literally threw herself at me,she liked the fact that I was "big and strong" and she like to run and jump in to my arms. I caught...
  15. Don't know what to do.

    General Relationship Discussion
    I have been with my husband for 8 years married 3. I love him so much we have been through a lot together. About 6 months ago he had an affair with a lot younger women. After the hurt and anger went away. We started working on are marriage and it has become stronger then it ever was. Here latley...
  16. Bullied into emotional affair? Our story

    Coping with Infidelity
    Jay got trapped and put into a situation he never wanted to be in. Jay (27) and his wife Lori (26) were crazy about each other and always have been. They had worked together at several businesses over the years and it was never a problem until Millie was hired. Within two weeks his world was...
  17. PLEASE HELP anyone and everyone

    Dealing with Grief and Loss
    I worte in another board very simaliar and the feedback I recieved was focoused on something that wasn't the root of the problem. Basically I have been through a lot in my life already... I grew up with an abusive father and loving mother, my little sister attempted suicide twice and was in...
  18. How do I ease the pain?

    Coping with Infidelity
    Hello. I found out recently that my wife had an affair with a co-worker. I confronted her and after some work she admitted her infidelity. She was devastated with her actions, broke off the affair, and re-devoted herself to me and our family. I have to say she has been more wonderful than...
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