I stayed single and independent for the longest time.. I married older and I thought I was marrying the right guy. I did not say perfect, he's human after all. I dated this guy when we were in our 20's and too young to get married. He went on with his life, got married, no children, divorced...

Hi everyone, My partner and I have been together for slightly over 10 years, during 6 of which we have been married. It is a long story how I fell for him, but he is about 20 years older than me. Over the last couple of years, he told me clearly that, due to getting old, he has no longer...

Hi all. I am in my thirties, and have been mostly happily married for just over the last 10 years. My wife and I met when we were in college, and have been together ever since. We've been married just a little over 10 years, and lately have been drifting apart. We have two small children, and...

Two weeks ago, my (M37) wife (F33) of more than seven years asked me for a separation. Although it came somewhat out of the blue, it was preceded by about seven weeks of terrible communication, tensions related to her work, her being physically and emotionally absent from the home and household...

I am in what must surely be one of the messiest relationship entanglements, and I don't know whether I need advice, sympathy or a good metaphorical kicking, to be honest. Some pressures around my wife leaving her job in 2015 ultimately resulted in me starting an emotional affair with someone...

My wife and I have been together for four years and we have a 1 year old daughter together. Our relationship was absolutely perfect... right up until she got pregnant. Then it was like somebody flip the light switch. She would purposely pick fights and push my buttons to prompt a reaction from...

Just for clarification I am female. I recently found out my husband of 5 months has been sexting with men for years, throughout the entirety of our dating relationship and our marriage. He has several emails, as well as accounts on websites similar to Craigslist where he posted ads looking to...

My husband and I have been married for 7 months, and together for 5 years. I just found out that my husband started an emotional affair with a much younger coworker and it became sexual. This affair started 3 weeks after our wedding and has been ongoing for the entire duration of our 7 month...

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Sorry this is a long read but I think the context is needed before requesting advice. Met my wife in 2009 and married in 2012. In early 2019, I found out she was cheating on me with one of her co-workers. I confronted her and threatened to leave, but she begged for forgiveness and wanted to work...

Hi my wife and I have been dealing w an affair that ended a few years ago. It was on my end. Loneliness and yearning to be apart of something made me make this mistake with A co worker I traine. Time has passed but the trust has been broken, we ended up conceiving our only child thru the drama...

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Self Reflection Questions: 1. How can I overcome my past wounds? 2. What can I do to avoid emotional triggers that set off memories of unpleasant times? 3. How can I find fulfillment through overcoming the past? 4. How would my life change if I had better control of my thoughts and emotions...

Up front, this is long and probably way too detailed for anyone other than those who are suffering from insomnia! My apologies for that, however even if no one reads this, just writing it out served as some therapy for me. Also, as I read other posts I realize this is pretty tame, but still...

I am Totallysad, and I first wrote a post here in 2015 sharing my experiences after a 16 year marriage with my husband in which I went through numerous instances of finding him cheating on me, physical abuse and emotional trauma. Every single response to my post asked me to seek counselling for...

In reading some of these threads - and I posted a few long ago - I have some thoughts for those of you posting. Please hear me out because I have been on both sides of this fence: 1. If your gut tells you something is wrong LISTEN! It probably is. 2. Don't wait for years thinking that...

I met this girl named Fi 3 years ago. We kind of fancied eachother, but we lived in different cities, so we didn’t pursue anything. A couple of months later, she got a boyfriend. I felt a little hurt, but I wasn’t all that bothered since nothing could’ve happened between us. Three years later, I...

My husband has been unfaithful in the past. I found out 7 years ago about past infidelities on his part and it crushed me. More over I thought I how stupid was I for not checking up, or not seeing the signs. I really felt like an idiot. For the last year we have started butting heads and its...