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  1. Coping with Infidelity
    I have something to confess that I'm very ashamed of. This is something that I haven't been able to share with anyone in my life. I've just read everything I wrote and realized that it's really long, so I apologize.... I'm 30 years old and have been married to my husband for 7 years. Over the...
  2. Coping with Infidelity
    Sorry this is a long read but I think the context is needed before requesting advice. Met my wife in 2009 and married in 2012. In early 2019, I found out she was cheating on me with one of her co-workers. I confronted her and threatened to leave, but she begged for forgiveness and wanted to work...
  3. Coping with Infidelity
    Hi my wife and I have been dealing w an affair that ended a few years ago. It was on my end. Loneliness and yearning to be apart of something made me make this mistake with A co worker I traine. Time has passed but the trust has been broken, we ended up conceiving our only child thru the drama...
  4. Coping with Infidelity
    This worksheet is for all those who are trying to cope with the aftermath of an affair. Download below.
  5. Coping with Infidelity
    Self Reflection Questions: 1. How can I overcome my past wounds? 2. What can I do to avoid emotional triggers that set off memories of unpleasant times? 3. How can I find fulfillment through overcoming the past? 4. How would my life change if I had better control of my thoughts and emotions...
  6. Coping with Infidelity
    Up front, this is long and probably way too detailed for anyone other than those who are suffering from insomnia! My apologies for that, however even if no one reads this, just writing it out served as some therapy for me. Also, as I read other posts I realize this is pretty tame, but still...
  7. Coping with Infidelity
    I am Totallysad, and I first wrote a post here in 2015 sharing my experiences after a 16 year marriage with my husband in which I went through numerous instances of finding him cheating on me, physical abuse and emotional trauma. Every single response to my post asked me to seek counselling for...
  8. Coping with Infidelity
    In reading some of these threads - and I posted a few long ago - I have some thoughts for those of you posting. Please hear me out because I have been on both sides of this fence: 1. If your gut tells you something is wrong LISTEN! It probably is. 2. Don't wait for years thinking that...
  9. Coping with Infidelity
    I met this girl named Fi 3 years ago. We kind of fancied eachother, but we lived in different cities, so we didn’t pursue anything. A couple of months later, she got a boyfriend. I felt a little hurt, but I wasn’t all that bothered since nothing could’ve happened between us. Three years later, I...
  10. New Member Forum - Introduce Yourself!
    My husband has been unfaithful in the past. I found out 7 years ago about past infidelities on his part and it crushed me. More over I thought I how stupid was I for not checking up, or not seeing the signs. I really felt like an idiot. For the last year we have started butting heads and its...
  11. Coping with Infidelity
    https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/11/191114115934.htm
  12. Going Through Divorce or Separation
    How are your relationships with couples that are “mutual friends”? We’re not divorced yet but I have a set of supposed friends that we knew independently before any of us got into relationships. I even worked with her overseas where our husbands were stationed (we were all in the military...
  13. Coping with Infidelity
    hi, so my name's nyla and i am not sure if i am posting at the right space but. Anyways. i have been married for a year now. and my husband is a cabin crew and he flies all the time, of course. And throughout our time together, i have never once doubted his actions or felt any insecurity...
  14. Going Through Divorce or Separation
    I’ve been to therapy for a few months since learning from my children that my husband had been in an ongoing affair- they were 3 and 5. I was absolutely devastated and the first thing that my husband said was that it was both of our faults and that I need to own my part. I did so much for him...
  15. Coping with Infidelity
    Wife and I had a troubled 7 year marriage. We had multiple points of tragedy with unable to have children, issues with side attention from other men due to low self esteem which would come and go, and fights which would get chaotic and end in no real resolution. Eventually we got to a point she...
  16. Life After Divorce
    Today marks 6 months since my XWW moved out. Although I'm not writhing on the floor in emotional distress, that sledgehammer called grief keeps pounding me in the gut at least once a day. I see her face, my best friend, smiling at me. My confidant, my lover, my wife. Suddenly, gone and in...
  17. Coping with Infidelity
    I have read a great number of posts here and on other marriage and psychology sites about why people are unfaithful. Men do it for different reasons than women, it's not really cheating if, should I take him/ her back etc. I'm old school on this I suppose but don't couples discuss the issue of...
  18. Coping with Infidelity
    Wow, finally a place where I can get advice - good or bad - truthful and honest... My story is a long and complicated one. It started over 20 years ago when I first cheated on my now wife, then girlfriend with a woman from work. I'll cut it short but since then I have re-offended on multiple...
  19. Reconciliation
    I am in the army and i have been on tdy orders in germany since october. I have been in a relationship for 5 years and married for almost 1. A month after marriage was when i got my orders. Last month she called me to say that she had a one night stand 2 days earlier when she was drunk at a bar...
  20. Life After Divorce
    My WS wife took a job as a restaurant manager in March of 2016. It was a new establishment and very high end. Business is very good to this day. I had a regular 9-5, and she had been looking for something more fulfilling and better pay for quite some time. We were married after an 8-year...
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