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  1. In the Dog House

    New Member Forum - Introduce Yourself!
    I would like to get feedback and thoughts on how you would feel and handle the following situation: My in-laws insist on bringing their dog (equivalent to a Golden Retriever) to our house when visiting. Despite my objections, my husband tells them "it's not a problem, it's ok". My in-laws do...
  2. Tired of dealing with MIL

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    Hi everyone! Does any of you have in-laws that are heavily dependent on your husband to the point it affects your life? My husband and I are both Asian and maybe it's an asian thing but my parents are very independent and respect our marriage(they think my husband should come first). They...
  3. In Laws...(Long Post)

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    I feel like I'm in a bit of a bind, and I have no idea what I should do in regards to my in-laws. A bit of a background, my SO, we'll just call J, and I have been together for 2.5 years, but have known each other for 3. Both of us are 23 now, I bartend and he's an RPN (nurse). Both of us work...
  4. Toxic in-laws...

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  5. GRRR! Christmas cheer around HIS fam, but cold shoulder/silent treatment for my fam!

    General Relationship Discussion
    :mad: Just tunes out. Turns in. Clams up. Shuts down. I love him dearly, but he drives me nuts with this crap! Seriously, I tried not to get mad. I wanted to look past it. But I realized I wasn't being honest with myself. We've talked about this over and over, yet nothing ever changes. So...
  6. In-law visits: How much is too much?

    General Relationship Discussion
    Hi all. I'm looking for comments or advice about my in-law situation. My in-laws are really good people, and I like them a lot, except for when they come to visit. Actually, I don't even mind visiting per se, it's just that I feel like it's too much, and my wife disagrees, and I'm not sure...
  7. Transference of Disrespect

    General Relationship Discussion
    My wife is an only child, works for her parents, and takes our two kids to the office with her. There are 20 years of age between her father and mother. Her father is an 80 year old Korean War vet and her mother is now basically his caretaker. As far as I’ve observed, my wife’s mother has...
  8. Help, please, with difficult situation

    The Ladies' Lounge
    Over 10 years my wife has gradually gone from being passionately in love with me to, now, saying that she never loved me. She says that she married me because she was afraid of me, though I don't believe I've ever done anything to cause her to fear me. She said that she thought that marrying...
  9. Wife: we can take the kids to see my family only if we then get a trip to ourselves

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    Married seven years, two children (one with special needs). I moved away from my home province to come up here to marry her after doing the long-distance thing for a while. Her parents are deeply involved in the lives of our children, while my folks live far away and only get to see them a few...
  10. In desperate need of advice on in-laws and husband

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    Hi Everyone. I’m in desperate need of impartial advice and thoughts. (sorry the post is so long, but in order for you to get the full picture I had no choice) I’m 35 and have been married to my husband for almost 9 years now. We have had a very rocky relationship up until about 4 years ago...
  11. I think he's done but won't admit it

    General Relationship Discussion
    This is going to be a doozy of a first post, so uh, hi, and sorry for crashing in like an elephant here. I just have nowhere else to turn to. I've been in an LDR for ~3 years with my husband, I'll call him PJ (married last June). He's military so that kept us apart, including almost two years...
  12. Anyone else spending thanksgiving alone?

    General Relationship Discussion
    As the title says, anyone else out there spending this holiday alone? I am married (do not know for how much longer) and have chosen not to go with my DH to the inlaws. For years I have been used as a puppet and seen as their source of "entertainment". DH says that I can stick up for myself...
  13. In-laws - Insensitve or Sensible

    The Family & Parenting Forums
    My husband and I have been married 17 years and we have two kids. Until about 2 years ago we had a good marriage. Most of our friends would have described us as one of the best couples they knew. My husband is an only child and his parents (and family, his mother is one of 10 that are all very...
  14. Feeling Foolish & now it's awkward around in-lawsOk

    General Relationship Discussion
    Hello, I'm very new here & glad I found this forum. Ok going to give a few details so this will sort- all make sense. Please bare with me. Me & DH (Matthew) has been married 17 yrs. We also have worked together at the same place for 9 yrs. We only have one car so it works out having to share 1...
  15. My husband has unrealistic expectations of my family

    The Ladies' Lounge
    My husband seems to have these expectations about the amount of effort my family should make to make him feel loved and included. His family is great in that way and they do put effort in to make me feel part of the family. My family however are much more subtle and they don't express how they...
  16. I'm going to miss her family

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    My wayward wife texted me today to let me know her stepmom is having heart trouble. I was really close to her stepmom and considered her a friend more than an in-law. That got me really thinking today - wow, I'm never going to see her family again. All these people I've grown to love and...
  17. Help with future in-laws

    General Relationship Discussion
    Good morning all, I am glad I found this forum and look forward to hearing some words of wisdom. I guess in order to get the best advice / feedback I have to start from the beginning. My BF and I have been together almost 2 years and will be tying the knot next summer. We are both in out 30’s...
  18. posting again for help!

    General Relationship Discussion
    Controlling Anger Hello everyone, Iam a new mother from India.My baby is 6 months old and i've been in the marriage for two years.ours was a love cum arranged marriage and we've been in the relationship for 4 years total.We are from two different castes in india, my husbands family belonging to...
  19. Getting Married Soon, Dad Moving In With Us??

    The Family & Parenting Forums
    My fiance and I are getting married in 3 months, and are moving out of state shortly afterwards. His parents, sadly, have recently decided to separate. We're both very concerned about his dad living on his own, because he seems to have started having thoughts about suicide. My fiance wants him...
  20. I'm going crazy with his family - please help!!!!

    The Family & Parenting Forums
    I'm 47 and was remarried last year to a great guy. He's not the problem (at least not totally), it's more his allegiance to his mother and brother. His brother (age 56) has some serious health issues, but a lot in part to his own doing. Brother in law is diabetic, but because he had lost his...
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