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How do you learn to forgive yourself post affair? I am really struggling badly with guilt and shame. I think back to how I treated him during the affair and it hits me like a sledgehammer. I am so ashamed of myself. And the guilt on top of that is just eating away at me. I need solid...

So I have posted previously. As everyone's situation is a bit different it would probably help to know the backstory, but to keep it short I [F 26] have been with my husband [M 32] since 2010. I wrecked our marriage by having an affair a few years ago. I didn't confess until October 2021. It...

I got married when I was 18 and my husband was 19. He immediately joined the Military and after he got back from basic training, within the first couple of months we decided to TTC. I got pregnant within a month. Now he cheated on me right before I got pregnant by contacting his ex and telling...

Do you ever wonder especially about your relationship and partner where the line is draw between your thoughts and those planted by your family. Do you ever find yourself torn trying to decipher if a flaw you are aware of is really that awful or was your family criticism what made it so big? and...

I have been living with my partner for seven years and have had very many happy times - we are not married but it didn't mean we were less committed emotionally. Around a year ago, I started having suspicions that he was having an affair but there was always some almost plausible explanation...

Ive been married for 20 years now, got married after 2 months b/c she was pregnant. We now have a 14, 17, 19, & 21 they all live with us. I was abused by my father growing up & had to support myself as an early teen from there I have become a successful businessman & have given my family...

Hi all, I have a weird situation that I have found myself in and I don't know how I should deal with my feelings. I have been with my husband for 4 years and we are really happy and in love, we have a house and want to have kids soon. But the other day I was flicking through my Facebook when I...

I found this online awhile back and wondered if anyone else ever experienced this. I have been troubled and "on the fence" for a couple of years, I've been through counciling and am presently in an "in-house seperation" with my wife doing a 180 on me. This pretty much describes my feelings in...

Ive been with my husband 7 years and split up last year but lived together till he moved out. I had met a new man but it all seems so real now and i am not sure whether its guilt or that i miss my husband. I feel my marriage was over for years but never had the courage to walk away until...

About 3 weeks ago I got a phone call from my neighbor, and also a good friend, saying that he knows I have been romantically involved with his wife. We have been neighbors for abt 3 years, our kids are similar in ages and play together all the time. This infidelity started about 3 months ago via...

I'm new here and I'm browsing around, seeing what is happening to other people regarding infidelity. What strikes me is the number of spouses who seem to want to continue the affair while remaining married. I would presume that once busted, the WS would either chit (give up the OP) or get off...

Hi, I have a problem. I am married a couple of years back and have a kid. I have been watching porn regularly since 10 years and haven't been able to giveup on it yet. Nut I watch when I am alone inside a room or in a public computer cafe. My wife doesn't know this but maybe she doubts me...

After many attempts to fix things my husband and I have begun the divorce process. We have been through counseling and tried all the things that people typically suggest. In the end we do not hate each other - we just don't love each other. He however, says that he wants to stay married. At...

I've been with this woman for almost 18 years. We have a 17 year old son together. We were divorced once, then we remarried. I have retained an attorney to divorce her, but I do care for her and do not really want to divorce her, but I know if I don't both my son and myself will not have a...

I think...........I know my husband is dealing and living with some real guilt issues stemming from his previous marriage. We met under a compromising circumstance, he was married to a woman that I recently learned that he was suppose to adopt her two youngest kids that were twins. He and I...

I don't know... I think the original post was too long. The details were clouding the intent, especially since I don't think I wrote it right. I just did it all in one go without editing it too much... I was upset so I probably messed the whole thing up... Here it is for posterity though...

I got married when I was 25 to a man I thought the world of and whom I was deeply in love with. Shortly after we were married, he became abusive and very neglectful. I put up with it (making all the usual excuses) until one very bad incident of physical abuse (after two years of marriage) when...