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  1. Finances and the future

    General Relationship Discussion
    My husband and I have been dating for 13 years, every since high school. It will be a year of marriage in December. I’ve been trying my hardest not to make every situation about money, but I do deserve some type of security. My husband was not raised in a household that talked about savings, the...
  2. Is it my fault?

    General Relationship Discussion
    This is my first post in years. Looking back at my old posts, I notice that they were all filled with anxiety about the financial woes of my marriage. Some years, a master’s degree, a new career with a pay cut, a repossessed car, and bunch of debt later...things have gotten worse. I’m here now...
  3. Fiance unemployed-I am so worried and upset.

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    hi all i have never posted on anything like this before, but i haven't been able to find the right articles online that relate to my situation enough. so, i will give a brief summation of what my fiance and i are going through. we've been together for 2 years, i am completely and utterly in...
  4. Overreaction or separation?

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    Situation: My husband and I have been married for 4 years (together for 9 years, two dogs and no kids). We live in a home we rent, we both have decent jobs which we enjoy and have been generally happy. We have hobbies, families get along, our friends are friends with each other and enjoy a...
  5. Husband Hates My Work Choices

    The Ladies' Lounge
    Hello, I’m new here and I'm hoping some of you can shed some light on this subject. I’m open to advice, thoughts, and inquiries. This is a little personal, talking about money.. My husband and I have been together for 9 years and he never seems to be satisfied with my choice of where I work...
  6. Experience with a SO who can't handle money

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    I see other posts about people hitting a wall with finances because their spouse or SO can't manage money. I registered specifically to share my experiences on this because maybe someone will find it helpful. It drives me up the wall when people spew "Divorce him/her" right off the bat. I've...
  7. Tired of being used.....

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    Ive been married for 21 months and Im ready to leave it all behind. We dated for 9 yr but ddnt marry because we both had other children from previous relationships and felt it would be easier to wait until the kids got older to marry. Although we had 3 children betwn 18-20, only my 20yr old...
  8. Husband Financial Abuses

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    Need help. My husband decided about 5 months ago that I should be removed from the joint family checking account. I only agreed bc he guilted me into it saying I spent too much money. Mostly I spend on my 4 kids bc they are always hungry, needing a sports item for school (needs basically, not...
  9. Husband removed me from joint checking

    The Ladies' Lounge
    Hi! I need advice. My husband is controlling about money. I'm not in agreement. He has taken me off the joint checking account. I only agreed to this to short term to help save money. I also agreed he doesn't have to give me any personal money anymore so it will help pay off a previous bill. But...
  10. Mother in-law financially dependent

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    Hello everyone, this is my first post here. I'm looking for some sort of way to vent my thoughts. I'm hoping for some suggestions as well. Maybe someone has experienced the same situation. This is going to be a longer post so bear with me...here it goes... My husband and I have been married for...
  11. 2 Steps To Help Married Couples Financially

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    OK, I have read multiple posts about couples having financial problems here. Whether the marriage is a young one or old. Finances are clearly a problem that sparks other problems within a marriage. While it's true that you see a different side of a spouse when the money gets tight, it's equally...
  12. Newly married and struggling. Need advice!

    General Relationship Discussion
    Hi all, So i've been married for just over a year and prior to that we were dating for a year. It was amazing, we would go for walks, cuddle and watch tv, have great sex. He swept me off my feet, i had come out of a 5 year relationships and he put me back together. We were completely in love...
  13. Husband doesn't hustle, doesn't set financial goals

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    How do you deal when you're married to a man who doesn't hustle? I am the one earning to meet the family's needs. I am very motivated, driven and I like to think big. My husband is taking care of a business (which startup funds we borrowed from my parents). The business has been running for 2...
  14. Young, Broke, and Resentful

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    The title sums up my feelings, but here's what landed me here: My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We have two small children, a toddler and a newborn. We're both in our mid 20s with college degrees and our finances have blown absolutely out of control. I've always out-earned my...
  15. At my wits end with my husband

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    For starters, I feel quite embarrassed that I am even considering divorce, as my husband and I have only been married for 6 months, but I'm beyond frustrated and at my wits end. Our arguments about finances and our future are never-ending. I'll try not to write a book, but here's our quick...
  16. Is this reason enough for leaving?

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    Hi all, I'm new here and desperate for advice. I'll try and be as short as possible with my story. I met my husband when I was 23 and he was 25, through friends on a night out. I was single, had a 3 year old child, rented my own house which I had done since 18 and was working as a medical...
  17. Foregoing spending on holidays for the good of our future?

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    My SO and I have financial difficulties like a lot of marriages do. I am the main breadwinner (previously the sole until my SO started watching this little girl at our home weekly). I make just enough to get by each month with maybe $50 leftover. However, due to a car being totaled last year not...
  18. I need some advice.

    General Relationship Discussion
    My wife has been off work for nearly two years with an injured shoulder. Insurance is paying 90% of her previous wage. Although the doctors say she is healed, she still has signficant pain if she exerts herself. I am taking care of most of the physical chores (vacuuming, washing floors, cleaning...
  19. Income/Philosophy Difference + Bad Timing = MAJOR PROBLEM

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    I really apologize for the length of this, but I have a lot to say. My wife and I have been married for 6 months, and we'd been together nearly 4.5 years before we tied the knot. Last week, we had a major fight regarding money and finances that nearly destroyed everything and almost resulted in...
  20. Extreme resentment money trouble

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    I need help! My husband has repeatedly made financial mistakes against my advise or will or knowledge. Throughout our marriage control has been an issue. His having it and my not having it. I almost left him because of it but we ultimately reconciled. I am a people pleaser by nature and he is an...
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