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  1. Husband Lied About Debt And Is Self-Centered

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    Edited/Deleted: I'm not interested in being a member anymore. I'll seek help with professionals. I urge others to do the same.
  2. Intense paranoia. Wife is no longer attracted to me.

    General Relationship Discussion
    I apologize in advance, this is kind of all over the place. I don't know what I'm asking really. We've been married for six years. 2.5 years ago I started having mental problems. Severe depression and anxiety. We determined it was work related (with the help of a psychiatrist. We...
  3. BH 1 year on unable to progress

    Coping with Infidelity
    Writing this is difficult, but perhaps here your support will help achieve some clarity. We met 16 years ago, bought a flat in 2003, got married in 2004 and our daughter was born in 2006. DW was always emotionally and financially dependent on me. I, with very little relationship experience at...
  4. Should asking for someone's credit report be a normal part of preparing for marriage?

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    Today, financial disputes are one of the most popular reasons listed as a cause for divorce. One or both persons in these marriages often say their partner betrayed their trust or was misleading about financial issues. For some, their former spouse hide debt problems from them, while others were...
  5. Income/Philosophy Difference + Bad Timing = MAJOR PROBLEM

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    I really apologize for the length of this, but I have a lot to say. My wife and I have been married for 6 months, and we'd been together nearly 4.5 years before we tied the knot. Last week, we had a major fight regarding money and finances that nearly destroyed everything and almost resulted in...
  6. April is National Financial Literacy Month

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    In 2011, President Obama declared the month of April to be "National Financial Literacy Month". He did this because he understands that the American Dream is being lost due to debt problems. (This does not mean I believe he or congress is doing a good job managing the national budget...
  7. Should I speak to an attorney before I leave?

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    I recently met with a financial advisor who advised me that if I want to be independent I should leave my home. I have been married for 24 years and have two grown children. My husband has been lying about our finances the whole time, has gotten us into serious debt, has had his family bail...
  8. My Top 10 "Did Everything But Think" (D.E.B.T.) Moments in 2012

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    10. Going to the gym for the first time in 3 months without stretching. 09. Locking myself outside of the house for a second time in 2 months. 08. Driving to Delaware for a meeting that was canceled (Also going to work on my day off). 07. Traveling to Puerto Rico without brushing up on my...
  9. Suggestions for those experiencing poverty for the first time

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    The "fiscal cliff" is directly in front of our faces and going over it will result in some people experiencing financial problems for the first time. Personally, I feel bad for these people because they are not accustom to living paycheck to paycheck. They haven't had to worry about keeping the...
  10. What's your money personality?

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    Many people believe financial planning comes down to making sure their net income exceeds their total expenses. This mentality often leads to the same outcome of most diet plans; failure. Where did they go wrong? Most forgot to account for their money personality. If you find yourself to be one...
  11. Just Whose Money is It?

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    Where to begin...it's such a long story, and I feel like leaving any tiny bit out is not properly representing the situation. But, because I actually want help and not to put people to sleep, let me try and put together a shortened version of events. My wife and I have been together for 12...
  12. Wife Desperate to find answer to our debt problems

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    I am here because I don't know where else to turn. I will go over our story as brief but clearly as I can. My husband and I are about $30,000 in debt, give or take. (Plus the mortgage, of course.) I am a mother to four going on five children. (I didn't plan on having another, I tried hard...
  13. I'm afraid I have ruined my marriage / life

    Financial Problems in Marriage
    I buy stuff. My husband doesn't pay attention to anything. Not the finances, not the house, not me. It makes me happy for a short time to buy a new dress, or new shoes, or to paint the kitchen, or buy a dining room buffet, or spend $600 at the greenhouse to plant a new garden. I had a decent...
  14. I need help...Should I I still try to get my wife back or not? I love her immensely.

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    Here it goes. And guys I need an honest answer. Don't just say yes or no. Elaborate for me if you can. My wife and me met in college in 2002. I am from Pakistan originally and she is from Ecuador. Both living in New York. We met in college got close started dating. Later on I used to go to her...
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