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  1. Disprate for answers!

    New Member Forum - Introduce Yourself!
    Hi! my first time in any type of forum. So I'm kind of nervous about this. Well... im going to try to make a long story short. My husband and I have been together for 17 years, married 15 years. We separated for almost 2 in a half years because of so many problems. But for the past year we...
  2. Why Did She Bother To Marry Me?

    Life After Divorce
    I'm curious why she even bothered to marry me? My now EWW and I married in September of 2016 and she decided to leave me for her boss in January of 2018. Crazy. What happened in 18 short months? History on my situation here...
  3. Searching for Contentment

    General Relationship Discussion
    It's been awhile since I posted here, and I can't honestly say that my marriage is any better than it was over a year ago. My husband lost his job last October and the job search since has been rigorous and disappointing, and of course, it has caused him a lot of stress. I try to give him grace...
  4. Mixed Messages - Need Advice

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    Hi all, Thanks so much in advance for any advice. Here is my story. About two months ago I got a text from my husband (not legally married) of 16 years saying that "he had to end things" and was too scared to do it in person. I first thought he was on drugs or someone got a hold of his phone...
  5. Married young and feeling some regret

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    I'm 21 years old and married to a great guy. We met in high school, but didn't start dating until a few years after. We started dating and had so much fun together. I have been in emotionally/mentally abusive relationships in the past, so it was a relief to be with someone who finally treated me...
  6. Too early to be this unhappy at 6mths

    General Relationship Discussion
    Hey all, New to the group. Let me get right into it. I have been dating a man for the past 6mths. I am 31, 4 kids. Him 40, 2 kids. We live an hour from eachother, but I work in the same town as him. He came on really strong in the beginning. Talked about marriage, wanting to be with me, calling...
  7. Confused on Choosing Wife or Mistress

    General Relationship Discussion
    First off, it seems like I already know the answer to my question. Leave both woman, they deserve MUCH better. I had an affair for over 3 years with a co-worker. However the woman I was having an affair with had no idea I was married and living with my wife and child. She did know I was...
  8. How to take the plunge?

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    My husband and I have been married for 4 years. He is 39 and I am 28.. I am beginning to question whether I want to get a divorce. I am feeling extremely unhappy in our relationship, but I fear his reaction and the backlash from our families. I know my husband loves me, but we have absolutely...
  9. Lost?

    General Relationship Discussion
    31 years old. Been married for a little over a year and we have been together over 12 years. 38/m 31/f. Just trying to give a little bit of backround. Last year I lost one of the most cherished, important people in my life. This man was the only father i ever knew and I watched...
  10. What do I do?

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    As I approach my 14th year of marriage, I'm coming to a cross roads. And I'm not sure what to do. We have not had an "easy" marriage. We've used counseling on and off, and that has helped communication, but there continues to be issues that I fear will continue to get worse not better. I have a...
  11. Not Really Sure What to do Anymore

    General Relationship Discussion
    I will try to make this as short and thorough as possible. So here goes. I met my now husband about 6 years ago now. We met via mutual friends. I was immediately love struck. He was going thru his only relationship issues at the time so we ended up becoming best friends. We did everything...
  12. So lost - Should get divorce? - Help!

    Considering Divorce or Separation
    Is this abuse? So here is the deal: I married my husband 8 months into our relationship (I was 22, he was 21) and we have been together for almost 8 years. Recently things have taken a large turn, and I cannot determine if 1) it's abuse 2) it's me? 3) I need to leave/he needs to leave 4) how...
  13. Recently Separated

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    Hi. I have been separated from my husband of 21 years for 4 days. We were together 6 years prior to marriage and have three great kids. Our relationship has always been one of mutual respect, love and understanding. However, I was diagnosed with cancer (advanced stage) 2.5 years ago. Everything...
  14. Just Don't Know

    General Relationship Discussion
    My husband feels when it comes to business matters or furthering myself or career, I don't listen to him. He feels I only listen to others and ignore or disbelieve him when he tells me I should or I could do something. I feel like I listen and respect my husband. I also feel that sometimes be...
  15. Give Him A Chance....Or Cut Him Off??

    General Relationship Discussion
    I am an attractive female in my early 30’s and have a relationship dilemma. My fiancé and I got engaged about 2 years ago shortly after discovering my pregnancy. Our daughter is now 1 and he came off as being this down to earth family man at first but now he just seems down right strange to me...
  16. Passive aggressive in-laws

    General Relationship Discussion
    My husbands parents have always never liked me but they will never come out and say it, however confronted my father in-law about his behavior he told me what he thought. He said he believe i'm cold uncaring, and selfish. He went on to say that he didn't understand why his son wants to be with...
  17. Affection and Intimacy Starved

    General Relationship Discussion
    I meet my now husband when we were both 17. He was my first everything. He used to be very romantic and affectionate at first. We got married after going out for 5 years. He started changing even before we got married. He treats me like a friend rather than his wife. A lot of times people think...
  18. Losing steam, trying to get through

    Coping with Infidelity
    Last page summarizes my story for those who don't know it yet http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/190522-help-im-stuck-trying-reconcile-my-marriage-6.html I'm losing steam. I'm about to get the final draft of our separation agreement from the lawyer so we can sign and...
  19. My opinion doesn't count?

    The Ladies' Lounge
    hello! first post here! yeah! :smthumbup: married 2 years, together 8. problem: he never listens. problem 2: i start feeling stupid. i'm (successfully) building up my own business and i'm my husbands "ears". meaning, he starts building his own business and i am supposed to be all ears all...
  20. Should I say I'm sorry?

    The Ladies' Lounge
    A little background, I'm a navy vet, now navy dependent. I'm attending school full time so I get a living allowance from the VA every month. I currently am not working, and don't have any children. My husband and I decided I should just focus on school. I know this is long...but I'm...
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