Hi, I'm not really sure how this kind of thing works, but I'm looking for support and objective opinions on my situation. I have been married for eleven years, and most of that time it's been pretty good. Life has been tough for a very long time, but our relationship has been fairly stable for...

I'd love advice on how to learn good communcation skills. I myself actually know some good skills and try to practice them. When I do have the courage to speak up I use "I" messages instead of "you" and I don't say "never" and "always" and I use active listening and am not afraid to look...

Apologies if this has been dealt with before, but can anyone recommend techniques for handling conflict in a healthy way? At 42 I'm in my first long-term relationship. None of my previous relationships were long enough or serious enough for me to need to learn how to handle conflict or tension...

We thought you might find this article helpful. While it may be hard to follow at first, it can make a huge difference in your relationship if you apply the principles of "zero negativity" as a consistent daily practice. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.: Zero Negativity The authors of this article...

Second marriage. Blow up on Wednesday night. Longstanding issue involving finances and lack of communication like most married couples have on purchases. He and his son started a remodel project in a basement bathroom where he is letting his son live until he finds a job. I own the house...

2nd marriage. Husband is 52, I'm 50. My husband is getting better at communication but we have issues including what is leading me to post after a hiatus. Issues: Husband is self-employed. This is a second marriage. We moved into his house. I sold mine, rolled my equity into this house and...

I know there is an active thread on this topic currently, but I'd like to get some advice specific to my situation if anyone would be so kind to read on and respond. I have heard and agonized about the "evils" of porn. But my husband is not addicted. We are not religious. I would love to...

Two nights ago my husband called my dad and completely lost his temper at my dad. He told me dad that he wanted to divorce me (we are not) and he went on to say a lot of nasty things to my dad about me. My husband has apologized to me for doing this. He said he was having a bad day, my dad...

One of the core components of reactivity and defensiveness is personal insecurity. I work with individuals that often share how family or friends are often reactive relative to them. The difficulty with defensive individuals is that they feel they are just protecting themselves from another...

:confused: Hello all....this is my first post. I just joined tonight. I really need some advice! My husband and I have been married for just under a year. However, we've been together 5 1/2 years and lived together over 2 years before marriage. We're both in our mid twenties. I honestly don't...