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  1. A little about myself

    Coping with Infidelity
    Hello. I have come to this forum to get relationship advice. My husband and I have been married for 14.5 years and we have just started marriage counseling about 2 months ago. There has been infidelity and a lot of lies, but I am trying to work on forgiving and moving forward. I am struggling...
  2. In the Dog House

    New Member Forum - Introduce Yourself!
    I would like to get feedback and thoughts on how you would feel and handle the following situation: My in-laws insist on bringing their dog (equivalent to a Golden Retriever) to our house when visiting. Despite my objections, my husband tells them "it's not a problem, it's ok". My in-laws do...
  3. Need Advice on Reasonable Boundaries For Visiting Family Members

    The Family & Parenting Forums
    My husband and I have been married for 16 years. We have come a long way with communication and conflict. We were lucky to find a retirement home on a popular lake earlier this year. What I need help with is setting reasonable boundaries for visitors. My husband's children make arrangements...
  4. FAMILY: How far do they get in your head?

    General Relationship Discussion
    Do you ever wonder especially about your relationship and partner where the line is draw between your thoughts and those planted by your family. Do you ever find yourself torn trying to decipher if a flaw you are aware of is really that awful or was your family criticism what made it so big? and...
  5. Boundaries, expectations, and ultimatums

    The Ladies' Lounge
    I need some clarification on boundaries, expectations, and ultimatums. I want to set a clear boundary, but I don’t want it to become an ultimatum. The situations: My husband and I are both employed full time at the same company. For him, it’s the company he wanted to work at since he was a...
  6. Sick over husband's confessions

    General Relationship Discussion
    My husband and I have had lots of problems with him having inappropriate relationships due to his lack of boundaries. To save our marriage, he's been coming clean about everything, and it makes me sick. There's been no physical cheating, kissing, or touching, but it still makes me feel horrible...
  7. boundaries with a female friend

    General Relationship Discussion
    I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 26, been in a serious relationship for just under 2 years. Saving up to buy a house together, so getting pretty serious. We have a great relationship, except for a few things. His best friend is female, I like her a lot and we have now become pretty good friends as...
  8. Spouse takes phone calls at all hours

    General Relationship Discussion
    Hello Everyone, This is a great site, very helpful information. I would love some advice. Married for 8 years, a blended family,, we have one high schooler at home. For years, it's been a conflict that my husband will take phone calls during the family dinner. Or, we'll be very very close...
  9. Boundaries: setting, defining, enforcing and when?

    General Relationship Discussion
    Boundaries are mentioned often and are a root cause of many relationship and marital issues. Often it's said "...You didn't have clear boundaries..." or "...You need to set boundaries...". Never has it been stated here or elsewhere how to : Define boundaries (with examples) At what time in...
  10. Advice Needed for argument over friends

    General Relationship Discussion
    I need some advice desperately. My husband and I keep having the same argument and I need to know if I have any right to speak up about what I feel like is an insulting disregard for privacy. Some quick backstory. I have been married for 3.5 years and have been living with my husband for a...
  11. Male - Female Co-worker boundaries

    Coping with Infidelity
    Ok so a little background I have been with my husband for 10 years and he is the love of my life. He is the most loving and caring man I have ever met! A little over a year ago we almost separated when I found out he was lying about talking to a female "friend". We went to therapy and he...
  12. The Best Friend

    The Men's Clubhouse
    My girlfriend has a male best friend. They are very close, text and Skype each other on a regular basis, and live a few hours apart. Both occasionally drive the distance to visit. They have known each other for almost ten years. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly four. I am not in any...
  13. How would you handle this? Married 1 year, and your wife won't move to your city

    The Men's Clubhouse
    I'd love to get your input on this - particularly (but not necessarily exclusively) from guys. OK, here goes - my first time posting. 1. My wife and I met in grad school in Vancouver. We moved in together during school. A year after graduating, she moved back to her home town, San Jose, to...
  14. overreacting because I'm jealous of my husband'd female "buddy"

    General Relationship Discussion
    I have an awesome husband, and I do not think he's cheating or ever would. But he has befriended a woman (we'll call her Rachel) who is in love with his friend (Tom) so he became the middle man for them because Tom is unhappily married and fell into feelings and an affair w Rachel. Well, my...
  15. My new plan (for better or worse?)

    Going Through Divorce or Separation
    Hi All - I am so grateful for the support I have had from this forum -- thank you, all. As some will know, my H and I separated on April 8th when he moved out to "take some space" (married 5 years together 7, no kids). Since then, it has been a real rollercoaster. In an email a couple of...
  16. Appropriate Boundaries with members of opposite sex

    General Relationship Discussion
    A man was interviewing new drivers for his transportation company. The route was very dangerous and went along several steep cliffs through a mountain pass. The interviewer asked each man how close he could safely drive near the edge of the cliff. The first man responded, “I could drive within...
  17. dating a seperated man who still lives at home (as roomates)?

    The Family & Parenting Forums
    First of all, thank you for any advice you can offer me here. I know this seems like a no-brainer right off the bat, duh! I've been dating a very sweet guy almost eight months now who (here's the whopper) still shares a home with the ex (as roommates) and their two children. I was aware of the...
  18. Husband texting other WOMEN

    The Ladies' Lounge
    My husband and I have been married 2 years. We have been together since we were 16. We are now 22 and 23. A couple of weeks ago I found a picture of some girl's ID in his phone. I flipped out about it. The night before he had gone to his parents' house (which is close to where this girl lives)...
  19. My Husband's Best Friend Won't Go Away!!

    General Relationship Discussion
    I'm very upset with MY HUSBAND. I've barely spoken to him in the past few days. I feel like I don't want to be married to him anymore if we are going to be dealing with the issue of his FRIEND over and over again. When I say we have a looooooong history with this particular FRIEND, I mean a...
  20. The Facebook Fuss - Frustrated Friendships?

    Articles
    Is facebook complicating relationships? Many are connecting online with old friends, distant family, and unfortunately at times old flames. Problem is, these relationships are not in 'real' time they are virtual relationships, ones maintained and fostered online. I spoke to a few individuals...
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