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Hello. I have come to this forum to get relationship advice. My husband and I have been married for 14.5 years and we have just started marriage counseling about 2 months ago. There has been infidelity and a lot of lies, but I am trying to work on forgiving and moving forward. I am struggling...

I would like to get feedback and thoughts on how you would feel and handle the following situation: My in-laws insist on bringing their dog (equivalent to a Golden Retriever) to our house when visiting. Despite my objections, my husband tells them "it's not a problem, it's ok". My in-laws do...

My husband and I have been married for 16 years. We have come a long way with communication and conflict. We were lucky to find a retirement home on a popular lake earlier this year. What I need help with is setting reasonable boundaries for visitors. My husband's children make arrangements...

Do you ever wonder especially about your relationship and partner where the line is draw between your thoughts and those planted by your family. Do you ever find yourself torn trying to decipher if a flaw you are aware of is really that awful or was your family criticism what made it so big? and...

I need some clarification on boundaries, expectations, and ultimatums. I want to set a clear boundary, but I don’t want it to become an ultimatum. The situations: My husband and I are both employed full time at the same company. For him, it’s the company he wanted to work at since he was a...

My husband and I have had lots of problems with him having inappropriate relationships due to his lack of boundaries. To save our marriage, he's been coming clean about everything, and it makes me sick. There's been no physical cheating, kissing, or touching, but it still makes me feel horrible...

I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 26, been in a serious relationship for just under 2 years. Saving up to buy a house together, so getting pretty serious. We have a great relationship, except for a few things. His best friend is female, I like her a lot and we have now become pretty good friends as...

Hello Everyone, This is a great site, very helpful information. I would love some advice. Married for 8 years, a blended family,, we have one high schooler at home. For years, it's been a conflict that my husband will take phone calls during the family dinner. Or, we'll be very very close...

Boundaries are mentioned often and are a root cause of many relationship and marital issues. Often it's said "...You didn't have clear boundaries..." or "...You need to set boundaries...". Never has it been stated here or elsewhere how to : Define boundaries (with examples) At what time in...

I need some advice desperately. My husband and I keep having the same argument and I need to know if I have any right to speak up about what I feel like is an insulting disregard for privacy. Some quick backstory. I have been married for 3.5 years and have been living with my husband for a...

Ok so a little background I have been with my husband for 10 years and he is the love of my life. He is the most loving and caring man I have ever met! A little over a year ago we almost separated when I found out he was lying about talking to a female "friend". We went to therapy and he...

My girlfriend has a male best friend. They are very close, text and Skype each other on a regular basis, and live a few hours apart. Both occasionally drive the distance to visit. They have known each other for almost ten years. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly four. I am not in any...

I'd love to get your input on this - particularly (but not necessarily exclusively) from guys. OK, here goes - my first time posting. 1. My wife and I met in grad school in Vancouver. We moved in together during school. A year after graduating, she moved back to her home town, San Jose, to...

I have an awesome husband, and I do not think he's cheating or ever would. But he has befriended a woman (we'll call her Rachel) who is in love with his friend (Tom) so he became the middle man for them because Tom is unhappily married and fell into feelings and an affair w Rachel. Well, my...

Hi All - I am so grateful for the support I have had from this forum -- thank you, all. As some will know, my H and I separated on April 8th when he moved out to "take some space" (married 5 years together 7, no kids). Since then, it has been a real rollercoaster. In an email a couple of...

A man was interviewing new drivers for his transportation company. The route was very dangerous and went along several steep cliffs through a mountain pass. The interviewer asked each man how close he could safely drive near the edge of the cliff. The first man responded, “I could drive within...