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  1. Coping with Infidelity
    Sorry this is a long read but I think the context is needed before requesting advice. Met my wife in 2009 and married in 2012. In early 2019, I found out she was cheating on me with one of her co-workers. I confronted her and threatened to leave, but she begged for forgiveness and wanted to work...
  2. The Ladies' Lounge
    Free as a bird now… I wish I’d had TAM sooner. I spent many years questioning, really blaming myself for my unhappiness. It’s supposed to be within our control, right? Just want to reassure people on the fence, not that I encourage it, but life goes on after divorce. I read a book recently...
  3. Considering Divorce or Separation
    Wife has serious mental health issues (extreme anger, anxiety, extreme opinions about people that switch depending on her mood, very high neuroticism, compulsive mouth breathing, hyperventilation, etc.). I strongly suspect she has either Bipolar Type 2 and/or BPD. She also most definitely has...
  4. Coping with Infidelity
    This post crosses a few topics, but mainly, my struggle is infidelity. My wife & I have been married for 8 years, 40 years old, no kids & I love her. A few months after our marriage, she had a severe manic episode (2-week hospitalization), and was diagnosed Bipolar I. First year was rough...
  5. Physical & Mental Health Issues
    Hi everyone, this is my first post on here. It's a long one!! My husband and I got married in June of 2013. He was super healthy, followed a vegan diet, no smoking or drinking, and was training for a marathon that he was planning on running in the Spring of 2014. In Early January 2014...
  6. Considering Divorce or Separation
    Hey there. My fiance has been together for a year (I know, jumped the gun) and we had one of those whirlwind, intimate passionate loves. We first met when I lived in Austin and she lived in Oklahoma, and from the first time I saw her I knew I loved her. We spent every weekend together somehow...
  7. Considering Divorce or Separation
    My husband at first seemed like my white knight, but about a year after our marriage his real self began to show. One day he is nice and polite and the next becomes a raging verbal abuser. My son and I have walked on eggshells around this man for 15 years. The more we tried to calm him the more...
  8. Coping with Infidelity
    Ok, this is really really long.. I don't know if I'm writing it all out to get it all off my chest or to get advice, but if anyone actually takes the time to read and respond to this, know that it is greatly appreciated.. My husband and I have been best friends for 6 years (high school...
  9. Relationships and Addiction
    Dear friends I think I probably know the answer to this, but I would like some other opinions. One of my best friends has a problem with gambling. She has always had trouble controlling her spending, but in the last six months or so, has fallen into even worse trouble with gambling. Last...
  10. Physical & Mental Health Issues
    Part 1: I have taken a special interest in the American poet Robert Lowell because he suffered from the same illness as I do: bipolar I disorder. It was in the late 1950s that Robert Lowell(1917-1977) threw back an autobiographical curtain to make explicit the horrors of his emotional BPD life...
  11. Considering Divorce or Separation
    There are a myriad of deal breakers on the table for my marriage, and I'm starting to believe that things will never improve, so I'm thinking about filing for divorce this week. 1. Trust issues: My husband is the type of person who doesn't share anything unless he thinks you "need" to know it...
  12. General Relationship Discussion
    AAAAGGGHHHHH!!! I have been married for almost 18 yrs, feels too long sometimes. For the majority of our marriage I was the text book codependent spouse. Finding contentment only in taking care of my beloved. He drank excessively, currently is not, and in the last several years has appeared...
  13. Sex in Marriage
    On occasion, she'll take out the hitachi and ask me to massage her, and i'll get Oral sex (but no bj per se')...It's like a transaction, with little emotion. Shes 50 now but has been complaining about a lack of libido since age 30. We got married when she was 28. I went to lawyers at the point...
  14. Reconciliation
    Hey everyone, I am needing the best advice, my wife left me two days ago, we are separated but not going through a divorce. She says we have had a toxic relationship with me being the one bringing her down. I admit I have been very harsh on how I treated her, I have belittled her, poked fun...
  15. Coping with Infidelity
    Hi All I have been married for 16 1/2 years to a man whom I started dating during my seventh grade year... We have four children that range in age from 16 to 5, my marriage has never been an easy place but I love my husband with all my heart and probably always will!!! My family was a very...
  16. General Relationship Discussion
    I have known this woman for over 10 years. We drank together and occasionally slept together. Then eventually she moved in with me. She lived a good distance from me so her moving in was OK. We drank together and partied, had a lot of the same friends, and she introduced me to a lot of people...
  17. Physical & Mental Health Issues
    My husband has been diagnosed with border line bipolar disorder, took meds for a month and quit. sought no therapy. this was a couple years ago. since then and before we have been on a rollar coaster. nearly everyday we can start out ok but by mid-day he is ticked off at somthing and takes his...
  18. General Relationship Discussion
    I understand if this comes off as sexist but I was curious to get your feedback on this particular topic. Do you believe that a bad/nasty temper can cause a man to view his wife as lacking in femininity therefore losing that "chemistry" or attraction? The reason I post this is I just...
  19. Going Through Divorce or Separation
    I'd posted this in another section of the forum but thought this might be the right place for it...any advice would be appreciated! My original post is below the current. Hello, After writing this post back in June I took everyone's advice and told my husband I wanted a divorce. It was a mutual...
  20. Considering Divorce or Separation
    I wrote out a long post the other day and when I went to spell check it...everything got deleted and I just didn't have it in me to do another post. So bare with me....and my spelling. Married 15 years. 3 kids ages 14, 10, 9. Own home, mortgage paid off in 6 years. We have $10000 in Credit...
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